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Hi Mirika:

Mirika asks: "In your estimation what are the top approaches to developing a preferred future? What methods don't show much if any affect?"

Mirika no doubt the top approaches to creating a preferred future are detailed and specific goals, business plans, and detailed and specific visualizations. These are time-tested and well researched approaches to getting what we want. They work. At Emoclear we have posted the Goal Maker for creating and carrying out goals and two powerful visualization methods: The Written Creator & the Chanted Creator. Our Emoclear book: "Your Emotional Power" contains a valuable chapter on creating a preferred future. If someone desires to put a business plan together the Small Business Association (SBA) offers business plan outlines and valuable pointers. They can be found online.

Methods designed for failure:

*Manifesting & Laws of Attraction. These approaches fail because inaction due to the dependence magical or wishful thinking. Often these approaches lack clear and specific outcomes, ways to measure them, and a flexible path to get there. Outside of hokum testimonials by the outfits that push these approaches, there is no research whatsoever
backing manifesting or the Laws of Attraction. Sidearm the "Secret" in your favorite trashcan and grab for goals or well-wrought visualizations. They are time-tested and proven.

*Not wanting. Methods promoting the extremely self-defeating ideas that you shouldn't desire or want something, you should believe you already have it. What complete and idiotic nonsense. This goofy new age hokum has no basis in observing high achievers or any highly successful people. The successful and the achieving are driven by powerful desires and wants. They are strongly motivated by wanting things. Think about it. Can you imagine Bill Gates or most of Fortune's 400 wealthiest persons not having very strong desires and wants? Can you imagine the world's heavyweight boxing champion or the Super Bowl Champions not desiring or wanting their titles. Come on now. Toss non desiring in the dump. It is a super obstacle to creating and having the future you want.

*Affirmations. The standard affirmation approaches lack detailed and specific well-formed outcomes and the road to get there. Plus most affirmations are opposed by counter beliefs, doubts, down moods, and blocking emotions. They don't work in most people's experiences and research gives them a hearty thumbs down.

*Creating single beliefs about something we want and blowing out their resistance. A little better than affirmations, but they still don't carry detailed and specific well-formed outcomes and the flexible path to get there. If you don't include a flexible road there, you'll just have a sketchy outcome hanging out there in midair with knowing the steps of how to get there. Taking action, a huge key to success, needs to be. This is left out in many of these plans.

From a previous Ask Steve:

Mirika asks: "What are the most important elements of creating a preferred future?"

Mirika the most important elements involved in creating a preferred future are:

(1) ACTION. Goals and visions go nowhere unless direct action are taken on them. Any approaches to preferred futures, without action, are nothing more than magical thinking.

(2) MOTIVATION. It really helps to have very strong desires to obtain a well-formed outcome. A passion for your goals and visions helps.

(3) FULL COMMITMENT. You must be fully committed to your goals and visions.

(4) FLEXIBLE PLANS TO GET THERE. You picture a clear path to arrive at your well-formed outcome.

(5) WILLINGNESS TO LEARN FROM ERRORS. You don't view your mistakes as failures and instead you use them as valuable learnings.

(6) WELL-FORMED OUTCOME. You have a clear and specific vision of the outcome you desire.

(7) A WAY OF MEASURING YOUR PROGRESS. You know how your pross is coming along and you will know when you crossed the finish line.

Take care, Steve

Another post from Ask Steve:

Diane asks: "Does research support particular ways persons create a preferred future?"

Diane current limited research supports visualizations, goals, and business plans as successful methods to obtain a preferred future. Research tells us what works and doesn't work in regards to visualizations and goal making. Let's take a look:

VISUALIZATIONS.

*Folks require an end vision/well-formed outcome and the steps to get there in their visualization. A lack of the steps to get there will be insufficient and will leave the end result hanging out there in space.

*Chanting out or rapidly writing out the visualization will make the visualization more believable because chanting and rapid uncensored writing blocks thinking which can interfere with believability.

*Visualizations only work if you believe them. Do what is required to make them believable. Remove emotional and practical resistance.

*Affirmations seldom work. This is due to emotional resistance and a number of other negative factors.

*Choosing a visualization you strongly want to occur will lead to more motivation and a better outcome.

*You will need to be committed to what you visualized and follow through on it with action for it to succeed. No visualization, goal, or business plan will work without
action.

*Like goals, visualizations work best if you are clear and specific about the outcome.

*What you visualize appears to work better if you visualize employing all your senses. This heightens the believability of the visualization.

*Chanting out or rapid writing out visualization detail leads to better imagery.

*Visualizations are more likely to come true if they line up with your deepest yearnings and core values.

*Visualizations need to be practiced until cognitive dissonance is overcome and they feel natural and real.

GOALS.

*Goals work best when they are written down. This may be due to using the whole brain for writing.

*Goals need to be clear, specific, and measurable. They need to provide a clear image of what you desire and how you will go about getting there.

*Goals work best when their progress is charted.

*Goals work well if they are aligned with your deeper values and you feel excited about them.

*Goals work well if you are excited to do the work to get there.

*Goals require not only a well-formed outcome or endpoint they need a clear and specific ways to get there.

*Goals need to be doable by either you or others.

*No goal will be achieved without commitment or action.

*Goals appear to work better if you focus on what you want and not what you don't want.

*Goals work better if you view them with all your senses.

*Goals work well if they are time-limited.


Take care, Steve