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EMO INTEGRATOR

Here are the steps to the Emo Integrator:

(1) LAY A PALM OVER YOUR LOWER FOREHEAD/EYEBROWS & LAY YOUR OTHER PALM OVER YOUR HEARTBEAT REGION. FILL YOUR MOUTH WITH SALIVA SO YOUR TONGUE IS SURROUNDED/LET YOUR TONGUE RELAX: Gently lay your palm and fingers across your lower forehead and eyebrows, with the karate base of your hand touching the bridge of your nose. Your fingers will point toward your ears. Lay your other palm gently on your heartbeat region. Fill your mouth with saliva so your tongue is surrounded. Let your tongue gently relax. (This quiets resistance and develops comfort.)


Jayne Burgos

Hi all,

Step #3 Breathe into the emotion and notice it's edges. Explore the emotion with your awareness out to its edges. Notice where it's
most intense and where the intensity fades out at the edges. Continue to breathe into emotion/feeling/physical sensation and experience it. A sense of tranquil detachment begins to grow. Some of us may experience a subtle separation from their emotion/feeling/physical sensation as they observe it and it's edges (Where the emotion/feeling/physical sensation begins to fade out). You may feel as if you are outside the emotion/feeling/physical sensation and watching it. If you don't experience the subtle separation, no problem. Your emotion/feeling/physical sensation will integrate-desensitize with steady experiencing. Take as long as you need and keep breathing into or toward the emotional target area. No rushing.
The object is to allow the emotion/feeling/physical sensation to be there. It will naturally lose intensity with steady experiencing and allowing it to be there. When it's integrated-desensitized it will no longer draw your attention. The emotional target will be acceptable or okay. The intensity will be gone from it. You're more comfortable with having this feeling.

During this last step you may get an intuitive sense about any issues connected with your emotion/feeling/physical sensation. You may get a sense of "what to do" or some other emotional insight.

Paul Mayer

Hi

The first four tips explain themselves.


TIPS ON THE EMO INTEGRATOR.

*Make sure you're well hydrated and alert prior to using this process.

*Prior to using the Emo Exposure-Integrator scan your body for any emotions/feelings/physical sensations that need of your attention. You might ask: "Are there any emotions/feelings/physical sensations that require my attention?" The one vying most for your attention will be your first target.

*Some folks like to welcome their emotional target with a "Hi" or "Hello". This may lead to less emotional resistance at the start of processing. (Say hello or hi toward your feelings. Feelings seem to surface easier for some after this greeting.)

*Know that exposure-desensitization are a research validated approaches to dehabituating intense and enduring emotions.

Hi,

More tips on integrating-desensitizing-



In integrating-desensitizing feelings several key items occur:

*Making full contact with a feeling. This means really feeling it without thinking. Full feeling means just that. No competing thoughts. No being distracted by other sensations, feelings, random thoughts, and doubts. We're talking about our attention being fully absorbed in the feeling.

*The No Intention Intention. This means we fully feel our feelings with no intention of getting rid of them or keeping them. This leads to acceptance or even love. Keep in mind that most feelings are biological messages that do us good service even though they may bring discomfort at times in their attempts to get our attention. They all are valuable. Learning to appreciate their value assists greatly in our natural process of integration. It also develops long-term comfort with a full range of our feelings. The No Intention Intention naturally installs itself though working with Emoclear Integrators.

*Calling feelings "unwanted feelings" is resistance. If we're intending to get rid of feelings or we're negatively putting them down, that will create resistance and block natural integration. Calling our feelings "unwanted" points back to our intentions here. So having that intention of allowing feelings and not trying to keep feelings will greatly assist your natural ability to feel and integrate

*Deeper acceptance is not a thought. It is a sense of what ever is going on is acceptable, okay, perhaps even loveable. Notice how acceptance arrives. It is a natural sense of things. This acceptance leaves us with a sense there's an okayness in what we're feeling. So acceptance is part of the unsticking process. Essence based love also does this. Acceptance is part of our spontaneous nature. It flows best when we really allow ourselves to feel something with no intention of getting rid of it or keeping it.

So if you're fully feeling a feeling, have no intentions of getting rid of it or keeping it, taking that "just back" or dis-identified position, getting those sensations knowing, allowing acceptance to flow--you can count on your feelings, emotions, and physical sensations to do their thing and integrate-desensitize.

Patience in learning this process and patience in applying it are important ingredients. Anytime we're rushing or pushing instead of relaxed and open we're off track.

Paul Mayer

Hi,

Integrating in a warmer room helps. Not stiffling hot, but warm. Warm baths help integration.


Kendra
Hi,

In observing your emotion from a dis-identified position you will be doing this from how you sense things. Most will sense a feeling in their body as physical sensations. A few may visually sense their feeling as an image. Like it might be a fuzzy patch in their body space.
Some few may get a sense of sound. Most of the time it's physical sensations.

Emmon Coughlin


Hi,

In observing your emotion from a dis-identified position you will be doing this from how you sense things. Most will sense a feeling in their body as physical sensations. A few may visually sense their feeling as an image. Like it might be a fuzzy patch in their body space.
Some few may get a sense of sound. Most of the time it's physical sensations.

Emmon Coughlin


Hi,

I will add to Brenda's insight below that if behind this "witnessing" you take an attitude of letting the feeling target be and not attempting to get rid of it, the target will integrate.

Carol Howell


"Hello,

If you do nothing more than experience the feeling target with the heartbeat and observe both together, you will dis-identify with the target and begin to integrate it.

Brenda McKinney"

Hello,

There will come a time when the training wheels drop off the integrator and the steps occur spontaneously from being practiced. The person feels the feeling and integration goes by itself without any prompting.

Julian Kammerz

Hi:

Here's some recent tips on tongue relaxation--

Before you even start using a relaxed tongue in a process, spend some time playing around with it.

Let it lay in your mouth and flatten. Don't push or demand that it flatten.

Feel it subjectively as either heavy or very light.

Picture your tongue as a heavy stone statue laying on the floor of your mouth. Feel one side relax before the other side relaxes.

It's common for it to partly unrelax during processing. Let it relax again. Imagine it deflating.

Witness a target while you allow your tongue to flatten and pancake out on the bottom of your mouth.


Gary Holtzman

Hello,

You can do tense and relax exercises with the tongue. Tense it up and then let it relax. Tense it up and allow it to relax.

You can feel the tongue as heavy or light. Imagine it floating. This will relax the tongue.

James Detweiler

Hi,

Picture your tongue laying in warm moist sand on a beech. Feel your tongue sigh and let go of all of it's tension. Notice which side of your tongue is more relaxed than the other. Notice which side of your tongue is warmer than the other?

What would your tongue feel like if it fell asleep?

Bill Soltas

Hello,


When integration happens, you think about the related event different. You accept both the feeling target and what happened. Any fixed attention is gone. The tension in your body smooths out. You get that knowing about what to do. Other than the heartbeat essence state after fusion there's not much difference at all. Integration is integration.


Carla Januzzi

Hello Emoclearians,

How do you Integrate a belief? Are there different ways a belief is integrated?


Carl Stohle
Hello Carl,

This process is capable of being used 2 ways to integrate a belief.

1) Standard feeling of the belief method. Say the belief to your body and get the feeling it creates.
Integrate the feelings. Use the VOC Scale (Validity of Cognition) When your finger fails to support the belief, the belief is not believed.

2)another idea is to experience your belief eminating from your heartbeat region. Keep it there until it dissolves. This targeting worked for me. The idea of it came intuitively to me. This process brings on intuition.

Dan Canepa

Hello,

How do you integrate a pain? Are there different ways to integrate a pain?

Carl Stohle

Hello,

Same as the other integrators. Get right into the sensations of the pain. Completely feel them. Take them through the steps.

You can sandwitch back and forth too because you have a head grasp. . Do that only after you've got the SUD as far down as possible.

Jim


Hello Carl,

When you are tuning into the pain let your heartbeat fuse into the center of the pain. You get a pulsing sense of the pain. The pain may flare up a little or a lot and then suddenly it ramps down. Images or sounds may come out of the pain. Don't interfere with those images. Observe them neutrally like you do with a symbol in the Intuitive Symbolizer. Then abruplty the pain fades out.

Dan Canepa


Hello,

Use the Intuitive Symbolizer and allow an intuitive symbol of the pain to emerge. E-Integrate it. Let the symbol dissove in your heartbeat region.


Julian Kammerz

Hello Emoclearians,

Newboids sometimes question their ability to do an integrator technique. Remind yourself that you integrated many emotions and feelings before you ever learned an integrator. You've felt feelings before and they integrated. You experienced intuition afterwards.

Some newbies are anxious or distracted about performance or their finger or hand pulses distract. Some people may be thinking loudly which blocks hearing the heartbeat. Some may have trouble experiencing their heartbeat with their palm. It's permissible to use any of the fingers, outer edges of the palm, or even the wrist to find the heartbeat. Some persons have fleshier chests. It is permitted to move the hand around until the heartbeat is located. If the heartbeat appears faint, give yourself time to tune into it. Tuning in is assisted by labeling the faint heartbeat area: "heartbeat" and gaining the whole of it. This lets your unconscious begin to amplify the heartbeat. Newboid performance anxiety, tension, and confusion makes "hearing" the heartbeat a little more difficult at first. Give yourself time to tune in if needed. Feel the heartbeat. Also one hand may be a little more sensitive than the other. Use the more sensitive one if needed.

Dan Canepa

This is useful for intensifying feelings during integration work.

Repost by Carl Stohle


LITTLE POCKET FEELINGS INTENSIFIER

Feelings can be amplified physiologically by the use of a heartbeat region hold or by placing the palm on the feeling and breathing into it. Feelings amplification and intensification can blow off resistance.

Feelings can also be amplified and intensified with simple intentional statements:

*This feeling intensifies from a one to a ten.
*My feeling brightens, becomes louder, and grows heavier.
*My feeling grows vast and engulphing.
*I bathe in this powerful feeling.
*My feeling fills my entire awareness.
*My feeling is oceanic and the waves of energy wash over me.

Pick one that appeals to you and exaggerate the feeling as much as you can. This intensification and exaggeration can knock resistance out. Just like the use of joking exaggeration.

Take care, Steve



EMOTIONAL( Remember to see a therapist for depression, panic, PTSD, OCD, or any other mental illness and see a medical doctor for any physical illness)

Anger/rage.
Anorexia/bullemia.
Anxiety (death)
Anxiety (flying)
Anxiety.(OCD)
Anxiety (panic)
Anxiety (performance)
Anxiety (phobias)
Anxiety (PTSD)
Anxiety (public speaking)
Anxiety (rejection)
Anxiety (social phobia)
Anxiety (worry)
Boredom.
Burnout.
Depression.
Disgust/revulsion.
Embarassment.
Emptiness/loneliness.
Entitlement.
Envy.
Grief.
Guilt.
Hate/resentment.
Irritibility.
Jealousy.
Love pain.
Low Frustration Tolerance/impatience.
Perfectionism.
Self-acceptance/self downing/inferiority.
Self-pressuring.
Shame.
Stress.

BEHAVIORIAL

Addiction.
Assertiveness.
Attention/concentration.
Conflict.
Controllingness.
Decision making.
Goalmaking.
Insomnia.
Loveaholism.
Nervous habits.
Overeating.
Procrastination.
Smoking.
Taking action.
Workaholism.

PHYSICAL CHALLENGES
Addictive urges.
Fatigue.
Headaches.
Insomnia.
Illness.
Jet lag.
Nail biting.
Neurapathy.
Overeating.
Pain.
PMS.

Hi Emoclears!

To use the Integrator with anger/rage someone could do several of the following-

1-Recall specfic situations where you became aggressively angry or rageful. Take the anger/rage feelings in your body and carry through the sections of the Cardio Integrator until it integrates.

2-Recall specific situations where you became aggressively angry/rageful. Write down the beliefs you held at that time. Feel the feelings those beliefs create. Integrate them. Shoulds, musts, awfulizing, negative other labels, can't stand it-itis. Whatever.

3-Practice assertiveness statements with visualizing. If agressive anger comes up, those feeling are integrated.


JoJett

Greetings Emoclearians:


Anorexia/bullemia is something someone wherein someone should make an appointment with a therapist.

What a therapist would target with the E-Integrator is the underlying anxiety feelings about gaining weight in anorexia/bullemia.

Eating urges could be targets.

The EI could be used on cognitions about the body that were distorted.

Liz

Hello Emoclearians:

These are the next targets to discuss.

Anxiety (death)
Anxiety (flying)
Anxiety.(OCD)
Anxiety (panic)
Anxiety (performance)
Anxiety (phobias)
Anxiety (PTSD)
Anxiety (public speaking)
Anxiety (rejection)
Anxiety (social phobia)
Anxiety (worry)

Anxiety about death is approached by asking your body/mind how you feel about death. When the feelings surface, you clear them with the EI. Someone may take this further by asking their individual feelings what is worse than that. This way someone knows their deepest fears. These become targets also.

Max Venhoven


Hello all.

Flying anxiety would be handled with the EI by reviewing all the scenes where the flying anxiety happened and then clearing the anxiety that appeared. Examples: Going to the airport. Waiting for tickets. Getting aboard. Taxi. Elevating. Banking. Cruising. Landing. Anyother anxiety provoking scenes within the flight. The anxiety in each situation is taken thorugh the E-Integrator.

Beliefs creating flying anxiety are also targets. The anxiety, that each of the beliefs produces, is the target.

Peter Warren

Anxiety about death is approached by asking your body/mind how you feel about death. When the feelings surface, you integrate them. Someone may take this further by asking their individual feelings what is worse than that. This way someone knows their deepest fears. These become targets also.

Max Venhoven


Hello all.

Flying anxiety would be handled with the EI by reviewing all the scenes where the flying anxiety happened and then clearing the anxiety that appeared. Examples: Going to the airport. Waiting for tickets. Getting aboard. Taxi. Elevating. Banking. Cruising. Landing. Anyother anxiety provoking scenes within the flight. The anxiety in each situation is taken thorugh the EI

Beliefs creating flying anxiety are also targets. The anxiety, that each of the beliefs produces, is the target.

Peter Warren

Hello Emoclearians:

Someone with OCD should seek a therapist.

To use the E-Integrator with OCD, first locate the feelings the OCD is covering. The feelings are often overwhelming anxiety about something. After the feelings are located, feel them and take them through the steps of the Integrator.

If you discover the beliefs that fire up the feelings that the obsessive-compulsive experience is covering, then run the feelings you get from them through the EI

Nina Kanis


Hello Emoclearians,

Panic is next. *Panic work should be done in the company of a therapist. It's easy to stimulate a panic attack doing any kind of feelings work with it. Some persons with panic may have difficulties with air passage blocking or asthma. This is why it's important to have someone there during this work. A therapist provides a sense of safety when working with overwhelming targets like panic or PTSD.

If you're using the EI with panic know how to do the Shrunken Head to block the flight/fight of a panic reaction.

Panic triggers or cues (racing heart, skipped beats, shortness of breath, tingling etc) are targets for EI.
The feelings of a panic attack are targets for EI integration. The panic beliefs are targets for EI.

Julian Kammerz

Repost by Alyce Waters

Hello Jim:

Labeling and delabeling is performed well when you're absorbed in the process. You're performing it at the feeling intuitive level. Your unconscious does the labor. You place a label on something by calling it your label. You feel a shift in how you experience what you labeled.

If you want to increase your skill with labeling or delabeling you practice putting labels on people and events until you experience the felt shift. Use labels that will be strongly felt at first because this builds confidence in the process. Think of very emotionally impactiful labels that you will put on.

Doing an integrator gets a person into that overall intuitive sense mode that lays the groundwork for doing labeling.
Integrate an emotion or two before you shift to labels and this will make the intuitive mode more accessible.

Allow your intuition to do the labeling and delabeling. This is effective.

Nina Kanis

Hi,

Phobias can be worked through with an Integrator if you use a neurovascular tug on your forehead and focus on your Low Frustration Tolerance feelings first. Those feelings which some feels "They can't stand it." "It's too much." "It's overwhelming". Then move to the basic phobic anxiety.


Love, Mirika


Hello Emoclearians,

PTSD work should be done with a therapist.

Hello,

Anxiety (rejection) is targeted with the EI by experiencing the feelings of rejection in the EI

Beliefs about rejection should be written down and individually integrated by integrating the feeling that each belief produces in our body.

A processor could also recollect memories of rejection and clear the feelings individually.

Bonny Keats


Hello,

Worry is deflated with the EI by finding the emotions covered over by the worry. When these emotions are located they are felt and processed with the EI

The worry thoughts are also experienced against the backdrop of the body so they create feelings. These worry created feelings are cleared in the EI

Jayne Burgos

Hello

To EI boredom imagine or recall times when you're bored. Feel the boredom for as many steps as you can through the EI

EI's integrate boredom beliefs and the feelings they produce.

Bettina Kohler


Greetings Emoclearians:

Burnout is washed through the EI by taking any burnout feelings you have and going segment by segment through the EI


Liz

Hi all,

If somebody has ongoing, deep, or suicidal depression they should seek therapy immediately. Self-help methods are meant to support therapy or to be used upon milder situations. Severe depression is not something you play around with. Sometimes some biological situations are helping to create depression.


Kyle D.


Hi Emoclearians,

Disgust/revulsion is processed like any other feeling. You feel the disgust or revulsion and take it through each EI sector until the charge goes off the target or you hit that essence transformation where the emotion meltsdown and you have the essence marker.

Disgust/revulsion beliefs get done up in an integrator same as any other belief getting cleared. Have belief make feeling in your body. Integrate it.

Larry Hinds


Emoclearians:

Embarassment and embarassment beliefs are discharged like any of the other beliefs with an integrator.
John Gastly


Hello,

While emptiness/loneliness probably should be handled with slower integration processes or the Emptiness Drill owing to these targets richness at the message level, the EI. will clear these targets. Feel the emptiness or loneliness all the way through the EI
Be sure to get the intuitive messages.

The Personality Clusters related to emptiness/loneliness can also be belief cleared through the EI.

Deana


Hello Emoclearians:

Entitlement is on deck.

Take your feelings of entitlement and integrate it straight down the line

Enititlement beliefs go the same way. Get a feeling of each belief and use that as your target. Frank Grabowski


Hello,

Grief is composed of several feelings. Denial, anger, anxiety, sadness, guilt. Each of these is taken into account in this learn-in or will be. Each of these feelings is felt and integrated with the EI

Carol Howell

Hello Emoclearians,

Guilt feelings are experienced and felt through each step of the EI until they clear or transform.

Guilt is surfaced through reviewing events or using your imagination to picture and experience situations where you feel guilt.

Guilt beliefs are cleared in the EI in the same way you clear any belief. You get the feeling the belief creates when you hold the belief. This feeling is integrated going through the EI's steps.

Julian Kammerz

Hello Emoclearians:

Hate/resentment is approached like any other emotion to be integrated in the EI Feel the emotion by recalling a time when you hated or felt resentment or imagine a situation where you might feel hateful or resentful. Clear the feeling straight through the EI

Integrate the beliefs of hate and resentment in the standard beliefs clearing way: Feel the feelings a belief creates and integrate it.

Clark


Hello all,

Irritability gets handled by taking it's feelings right down the EI Irritability beliefs--write them down. Get the feelings the beliefs create. They're the targets. When the feelings are integrated, the beliefs don't have any hang.


Hank Wohl
Hello,

Jealousy--integrate it like the other emotions with the EI. Integrate the jealous beliefs like you would other beliefs.

Nick Abruzzi



Instead of repeating the same formula, it is smart to mention that each of the emotions on this list are handled in the same integrating way as the EI You feel each emotion on the list below and integrate it.

The same goes for the emotional beliefs. You uncover the operant beliefs and clear them as you would any other belief in an integrator.


Jealousy.
Love pain.
Low Frustration Tolerance/impatience.
Perfectionism.
self downing/inferiority.
Self-pressuring.
Shame.
Stress.

Dan Canepa

Hello Emoclearians,
These are the upcoming targets for the discussion-


Addiction.
Assertiveness.
Attention/concentration.
Conflict.
Controllingness.
Decision making.
Goalmaking.
Insomnia.
Loveaholism.
Nervous habits.
Overeating.
Procrastination.
Smoking.
Taking action.
Workaholism.

To work with Addiction you Integrate
the following targets-

After you find the feelings the addiction is covering, you integrate them.

You integrate addictive urges.

Any body triggers that come up and lead someone into addictive behavior, they are cleared through the EI parts.

You create negative feelings toward substances/behaviors and clear the counter beliefs, doubts, counter intentions to having this repulsion. Later when someone is free of the compulsion to use, they do away with the negative feelings toward the substance if they desire.

You use the EI along with the Goalmaker for making alternatives to the addiction.

You belief clear the Addictive Personality Cluster with the EI. You get the belief's feeling and clear it.

Max Venhoven


Repost by Mirika Chen

Hello,

With assertiveness you clear the feelings behind agression and any anxiety about not speaking up. You take these feelings through the EI steps.

You combine the EI with the Pattern Tree where it asks for an integrator.

Bonny Keats


Hello Emoclears,

Most times all you need to do is see what the feelings are beneath the worries or monkey mind. Feel them and integrate them.

Carl Stohle

Hello-

Conflict. Distorted beliefs that miscolor communications, decisions can be integrated. You obtain the feelings the distortions cause and clear them. This will give a cleaner perspective to communicate or decide.

Ulle Bellak

Hi,

Controllingness can be a compulsive cover for anxiety. Locate the emotion(s)hidding under the controllingness and integrate them.

Beliefs, that contribute to controllingness, can be integrated in the standard way.

Love, Mirika Chen

Hello all, If you do the EI on insomnia you do it on the feelings of frustration in getting to sleep, on the stressful almost adrenalized feelings, on the demanding feelings that you should sleep. You do it on the feelings that are blocked by worry and monkey mind. All of these feelings are felt through every EI step required. You also target any beliefs helping to create your blocks to sleep.

Bruce


Hello:

Loveaholism is targeted like addictions and compulsions. You locate the feelings beneath the strong neediness and feel them in the EI while you clear them.

See the Loveaholism Personality Cluster. It's beliefs are targets for the EI You get the feeling made by each belief and clear the feeling in the EI


Nina Kanis


Hello,

Nervous habits could be targeted with the Pattern Tree. The EI could be used as the clearing technique with the Pattern Tree. It also could be used as the Integrator with the Habit Cracker.

Bonny Keats

Hello Emoclearians,

The EI can be used as the integrator with the Pattern Tree, Habit Cracker, or Vestibular Pattern Breaker for overeating. The EI integrated feelings, beliefs, sensations, urges that drive the patterns of overeating.

Nick Abruzzi

Overeating.
Procrastination.
Smoking.
Taking action.
Workaholism.

PHYSICAL CHALLENGES
Addictive urges.
Fatigue.
Headaches.
Insomnia.
Jet lag.
Nail biting.
Neurapathy.
Overeating.
Pain.
PMS.


Greets all,

The target here is procrastination. There's a stockpile of material on procrastination in the Learn-in Forum.

Procrastination feelings can be integrated directly by taking them through the EI

There is a Procrastination Personality Cluster. This cluster's beliefs can be cleared by getting the feeling each belief produces. These feelings will then be cleared through the EI sectors.

Jarrod


Hello,

See the posts about smoking and addiction.

Uncover the feelings the smoking covers and feel them before you integrate them

Integrate the trigger feelings that lead to picking up cigarattes.

Integrate the beliefs you have about smoking.

See if any beliefs need clearing in the Addiction Personality Cluster.

Use the Pattern Breaker with the EI to overcome the smoking behavior pattern.

Brenda McKinney


Greetings Emoclearians:

Taking action is helped by EI clearing those emotions and feelings that keep someone frozen in inaction. Take each one of those feelings through the EI steps. Get in the habit of taking action. Also notice how those actions lead to worthwhile outcomes.

Liz


Hello Emos,

Workaholism like other compulsions/addictions is targeted by finding the feelings covered over by the compulsion/addiction. These feelings are integrated

The Workaholism Personality Cluster is integrated belief by belief. The beliefs are felt, those feelings are integrated

Julian Kammerz


Hello,

Addictive urges are integrated by finding the feelings beneath the urge or need and integrating them.

Bonny Keats


Emoclearians:

Apply the EI to the feelings of fatigue and integrate them. See too if there are feelings are beneath the fatigue as some fatigue may be a compulsive cover. If there are feelings beneath the fatigue, integrate those.

If you have ongoing fatigue see a medical doctor.

John Gastly


Hello Emoclearians,

Visit a medical professional if headaches are a regular part of your life.

Headaches are to be felt in the EI and processed through the steps. You may wish to switch back and forth between integration and the energy process mode.

Alyce Waters


Greetings Emoclearians:

The following remaining targets are all integrated the same manner by feeling their sensations.

If someone has difficulties with neuropathy, pain, and PMS they should visit a medical doctor.

Jet lag.
Neurapathy.
Pain.
PMS.

Albert Venhoven

Repost from Emo-Integrator learn-in that applies to integrating in general. Clark

how to obtain their felt sense:

1--Think of something you enjoy. Maybe a cornbeef sandwitch. Chile verde. Whatever. Give yourself 2 minutes tops. Settle on one thing.

2. Ask yourself why you enjoy it. "Why do I enjoy this?"

3. Allow yourself to experience the entire or whole sense of enjoyment. Maybe pick one or two words that describe that entire sense of enjoyment.

4. Allow yourself to feel what those words refer to. This is the overall felt sense. Pay attention to it and see if any new feelings come up. This should give you the experience of a felt sense of something your enjoy. You could also practice on uglyness. Beauty. Humor.

This overall felt sense is stimulated when you are looking from the "just back" position given by labeling the feeling with "That Message"

Good morning:

There are many excellent methods for finding the felt sense. Here are a few.

(a) You might say to yourself that you have no difficulty. Then pay attention to your body and experience what it feels in response to your statement you have no difficulty.

(b) Let yourself relax prior to finding the felt sense.
You may relax your tongue and facial area first. That spreads relaxation elsewhere. Then go look for the felt sense.

(c) Imagine your difficulty on a very large mural on the side of a building. You step back and view all of it.
Then return your attention completely to your body and notice the overall felt sense that mural provided.

(d) Step back. Ask yourself: "What does it feel like presently for me to be someone who has this difficulty?"
Pay immediate attention to your body's response and notice your overall felt sense. Labeling does the same.

(e) Repeat the most meaningful phrases, concerned with your difficulty, to yourself and begin to notice the edges of your felt sense. Give your body time to respond.

(f) If your felt sense forms outside your body, then make sure your palm is on your heart region. Allow your attention to gently guide your felt sense back inside your body. Allow it to return to your body. Put your attention on your stomach or chest. Your felt sense will migrate here. Outside your body will block your experience at some point.

(g) If your mind wanders during the felt sense, then gently bring your attention back to the overall felt sense. Be forgiving here. It happens to everyone. It may happen many times at first. Just gently bring your attention back to your overall felt sense. If the thoughts get too intrusive, write them down and look at them for a bit before you return your attention to your overall felt sense. Perhaps these intrusions may be grist later for the EI.

(h) During the day you may wish to ask yourself these questions: How am I feeling? What am I feeling now?
Allow your overall felt sense to form. This practice permits you to know your felt sense at any time.

Liz

I have worked with the felt sense. When working with emotions and the felt sense it is very important to know that emotions are not the felt sense.
Anger, anxiety, depression, happiness and others are not the felt sense. What is the felt sense is our sense of the complete emotional situation. You are feeling many things together. Your emotion is just part of that overall sense of it.

The felt sense is the overall sense of a feeling or emotion. The outside and wider view given by the label "That message"

Dan Canepa
Hello:

To continue where I left off this morning with the felt sense, here are some more pointers:

Feel blank or that nothing is there? Know that even the absence of feeling is a feeling. If this is your experience, notice what this feeling of blankness is like.
What does it feel like to feel all the blankness. Can you get an overall sense of this blankness? This is your overall felt sense. Blankness, numbness, nothing, can all be approached this way.

If you have overwhelming feelings or you are pushing hard to get rid of your feelings, you may focus then on your overall sense of what is going on. Allow your attention to spread out over the feeling of overwhelm. Find it's edge. Now experience the overall felt sense.
Anytime you're very overwhelmed, just spread your attention out and take in the furthest edges of your felt sense. Also check with yourself to see if you are allowing the feeling to be there and not trying to get rid of it. If you are trying to force it away in any way you are not working with the no intention intention.
Allow it to be there and spread out your attention. Experience it as "that knowing". Get the whole feeling and whatever's related to it.

If you fear experiencing your feeling, ask yourself first what you can't stand. Get an overall felt sense of it.
Allow it to be there. Experience it as "that message".
Do Steve's Low Frustration Tolerance exercise: "I Stood It". It's now on the process page. Remember the secret here is to spread out your attention and allow for the overall felt sense of the emotion. If you sense a barrier there, allow your overall felt sense of the barrier to form.
Take in all of it. Let your attention spread out to the edges. Fear and can't stand it-itis are just energy. We stand them by putting up with them. Acceptance and love cool them down. When we look upon them with acceptance they are nothing more than energy stirred up by some absolutistic beliefs.

If you feel like feeling are too many and are coming to fast, just experience them as "that energy" and get an overall felt sense before you pick just one feeling from the overall felt sense. Then spread your attention out on that until you get an overall felt sense. Also you can take a brief break looking around and then coming back to just one feeling. Spread your attention out.

Same old, same old? Same old "bad" feeling that keeps bothering you? Go to it and spread your attention out until you get an overall felt sense. Experience it as "that message". The overall felt sense begins it transformation if you go here with acceptance.

Liz


Hey:

Lots of useful information on running the Emo-Integrator a great simple process that runs on its own once you get it down.

Here are some additional trouble shooting tips:

Sometimes we can't find our felt sense because we are not acknowledging what we have. We're discounting feelings because they were not the ones we were hunting for or we dismiss certain feelings and sensations because they don't get our definition of a feeling. Blankness. Frustration over not finding feelings. Tingling. Any feeling or sensation or lack of it counts. Sometimes we have to expand our definitions and stop discounting what we're getting.

Positive feelings also are grist for the integrating mill. They count too. They also have valuable messages for us. In fact they can be emotionally nourishing. Integrating serenity, love, openness can be very valuable. Integrating some positive feelings can take us out of needing something we already have.
Notice in your body where positive feelings might reside. They are good to hear. Being open to all feelings, socalled positive or negative, helps us to be open.

Subtle sensations count. Knowing them are important.

We may run into feelings without names. That's okay. They are still feelings that don't seem quite like anything else. The more of these inarticulate feelings you meet, the more likely you're allowing the process to go in the right direction. It means you're noting some subtle feelings in your body. You're leaving nothing unattended.

If you locate a dual feeling during your EI and they are socalled positive and negative feelings, see if you can just be in the positive feeling and take in the negative feeling from there. This allowing your positive feeling to observer your negative feeling. You can imagine what goes on there.

You will get images at times with your feelings. This is fine. The problem might arise when you get sucked out of your feeling by paying too much attention to the images. Simply shift your attention back to your feeling. Pay just enough attention to your image then shift back. Changing images can change your feelings.

Sometimes people complain of a lack of images. That's okay too. Not everyone is visually oriented.



Repost by Peter Warren


There are some brief questions that we can ask our overall felt sense to get the ball rolling or to stimilate integration. These questions can be useful for unsticking a feeling:

What does this feeling want for me?

What is the core meaning of this?

After this was accepted or loved, what might it feel like?

What are the most negative parts of this?

Is there something beneath this?

What made this feeling happen?

What does this feeling prefer to see happening?

These questions pull out the brief intuitive messages. If you like you can write the answers down or maybe even write them down via automatic writing. There is no need to do this, just getting the brief intuitive messages is enough.


Allow your spontaneous acceptance or love to connect with your feeling. This is what people do when they integrate--they either accept or love what they are integrating. Acceptance pulls apart the cosmic glue of resistance. Acceptance is no resistance at all. It is a flowing wordless sense of things.

We all have the terrific power of acceptance and love. In is part of our essential nature. Acceptance is not a thought or a belief, although we may get beliefs in its wake. Acceptance is wordless. It is an overall sense of things. It flows easily when we take the no intention intention where we fully feel something with no intention of getting rid of it or keeping it. When we experience this place, we are experiencing wordless acceptance.
Resistance does not hang with acceptance. Acceptance flows from the watcher when the watcher is not manufacturing resistance.

It is a good idea to cultivate acceptance, by allowing it to be there. You might want to recall the last time you accepted something, no matter how small or how large. Just go to that place and observe what happened when you were accepting. Watching something patently will breed it.(See the Acceptance Presuppositions & the Love Presuppositions)

Love and acceptance flows from essense. Love will most likely come after you've integrated a fair amount of material. It is like super acceptance. It is agape love or the love you experience in an essence state. It embraces, but does not grasp or hold onto. It is even more powerful than acceptance. Something brought into essential love will rapidly recycle back into energetic formlessness.

If you know essence love or agape love, go to it and practice experiencing it. Know where it is so you can experience your feeling immersed in it.

Breathe naturally during integration. If after you've mastered the CI you can do an old favorite around here of adding high lung circular breathing which you can find on the process page. This really powers up integrating and takes it to a higher level. It also spontaneously brings up unconscious material for integration and release.


Teko

It is this accepting or loving eye that changes our relationship with what is experienced. The energy of resistance is burned away in this oven of acceptance and love. The emotional information have been received. No longer does resistance keep the object suspended in space. Nothing is being resisted here to keep the object alive. It is integrated back into formless energy. The run is over and it no longer has power over us. We have either accepted it or loved it. It's holding strength is gone. Our inner nature has transformed it from a particle of energy back to formlessness. It's message rests in our unconscious. We have more energy available and our perception has subtly changed.

What is acceptance? A wordless and open way of clearly looking at what is before us. It has no absolute or extreme qualities about it--it provides a sense of choice. Acceptance doesn't mean we're pleased with it or resigned to what we're viewing. Our view is uncritical and we do not demand what we view as being anything other than what it is. This acceptance leads to less enduring and intense emotions.
Our mind is clear and focused.

Love is difficult to define. Love comes from our essence. Like acceptance it comes from a place of neither pushing away or grasping. It has a stronger tone than acceptance, not feelings wise, but in a transformative sense.
The love of the EI has a compleatness about it. It lacks nothing--it comes from wholeness. It is self-contained. It isn't romantic, needy, or desiring. It directs itself outward. It is agape love and looks on everything in the same light. Playing no favorites, it is unconditional. There is a subtle sense of isness about it. You will recognize it the moment you experience it. Everything is transformed before it.
If you've ever experienced love in an essence state you would know what I'm talking about.

Most new persons will be working from just acceptance at first. Love kicks in with maturity with this process.

William Tekada

Teko and William have descibed step four brilliantly. Nothing to add here to their descriptions.

I would just like to note that this kind of acceptance and love is traditionally what is taught in the Tibetan tradition to deal with the so-called Wrathful Deities (projections of the reisted aspects of our own consciousness). The teaching is that wrathful deities are the guardians of doorways to important areas of our consciousness. When they are encountered with the kind of acceptance, they transform into allies and openness.

Hidden in the utter simplicity here is awesome transformative power. If you are lucky enough to encounter a true person of wisdom, you will likely find that they have this quality of agape love and acceptance integrated into their everyday beingness.

Cheers, Yogi




Reposted and edited by Max Venhoven

When people are first learning the EI they might utilize a few add ons to assist with acceptance. The no intention intention, full feeling, knowing the overall felt sense, and allowing spontaneous integration. The following procedures can be used for reducing resistance and raising acceptence or love toward the feeling that is being embraced and integrated.
These add ons are not neccesary after we've fully learned the process because quite frankly integration is easy and natural when we are not resisting and are instead fully accepting or loving the feeling. This is really quite different from many releasing processes that fail to heed the importance of the no intention intention, our vital need for our biological messages and intuitions, the great healing power of spontaneous acceptance and agape love which we all contain, the use of the overall felt sense, and the requirement of going from full feeling to the outside. The EI is a replica of the way healthy human beings integrate their feelings.

Here are some possible add ons to assist the process in the early stages of learning:

@Welcome or thank your feeling for the good service it has provided you as a biological messenger or for some good thing it does for you in your emotional economy.

@Visualizing spaces in your body, using the Desychchronizer or the Twilight Imagery Process will lead to an open and relaxed focus of attention.

@Intensifying or exagerating a feeling or emotion neutralizes resistance. Repeat this activity several times.

@ Intuitively expand and shrink the feeling or emotion. Do this several times and the resistance turns off.

@Ask your feeling what good things it wants for you.
This reduces resistance.

@Experience your feelings or emotions as consciousness.
It is right now apart of your consciousness. This neutralizes resistance and breeds acceptance.

@Briefly consider how someone else might accept or love your feeling, then quickly shift back to your feeling.
This breeds acceptance or love.

@Can you experience your feeling as a long lost friend with an important story to tell {it's true--it is a friend and it has a story to tell}. This brings acceptance.

@Can you experience it as larger/smaller--louder/quieter--nearer/further--more intense/less intense--brighter/darker. This neutralizes resistance.

Jump in with more tips and ideas

Teko


Alex:

Now lets get to opening practice. Here's a brief list of common every day situations for experiencing feelings and emotions. Choose a couple to practice with if you don't have much to work with your first time out.

THE NEWBIE'S PRACTICE LIST FOR INTEGRATING

You're sleeping and there's a barking dog.
You computer doesn't boot up.
The Emoclear Forums are down down for 8 hours.
Your Gettysburg Address style post gets deleted by the webmaster as too inflamatory.
Your date is 1 hour late and has not called.
Your car has a mysterious dent in the door.
You're stuck in traffic.
You just missed your train.
You got shot down for a raise.
You just bounced a check through no fault of your own.
You've got a dealine.
The airlines lost your baggage.
The Zerox is out of toner.
They are out of what you wanted at the supermarket.
You spilled Pepsi on your shirt.
Your mother-in-law wants to visit for a month.
There's a city wide blackout.
You get a parking ticket.
The sole comes off your shoe.
Your coworker wants to argue every point.
Your haircut is not what you requested.
People are smoking in a no smoking zone.
You are blamed for something you did not do.
You call someone about something important and you get nothing but busy signals.
You can't find your glasses or contacts.
You lost your house keys.
You go shopping and forget your wallet.
The phone company bills you for calls you know you never made.
Your brand new car gets tailended.
You ask for rare steak and they bring it out well done.

These should get you started.

William Tekada

Hi, People work with the EI for many different motivations. It is a good idea to check out your motivations.

Some motivations for using the EI are almost sure to slow down your ability to integrate and even stop it cold.
Here are some motivations that will almost certainly slow you or block you outright.

1.Wanting to get rid of unwanted feelings. This goes against the grain of the EI. It will produce resistance galore. It is counter intentional to the No Intention Intention.

2. Wanting to release. WHAT! Yes that's correct. If you want to release a feeling you will slow your progress and in some instances stop it. Wanting to release is a form of resistance. When you want to release or let go of a feeling you are saying to yourself that you no longer want that feeling. What I am about to say next may sound odd. Then again it may not. What do you release? A feeling. An emotion? Or the energy or tension in our body? Actually we don't really let go of a feeling when we do standard brand releasing. We are letting go of the energy and tension, yet we may not be effecting our underlying feeling or thoughtform. This kind of releasing is very relaxing, yet we may not be truly effecting the feeling or thoughtform to any great extent.
Sometimes people mistake the feeling of new relaxation for the feeling being altered or released. This may not be the situation. The feeling or thoughtform may still be there intact. We just feel temporarily better. The feeling or thoughtform is still there. The relaxation may help us deal better with contacting the feeling and that in time may allow our acceptance to grow toward our feeling. Sometimes the relaxation is just a mirage.
This is why with some releasing methods we may get return trips from feelings we basically resisted by trying to release them. Nothing is integrated. We may also miss the bio-messages that way as well.
When people learn to just be with those feelings and feel them with acceptance or love that is when they naturally and completely integrate. The CI is a whole new way of being with and embracing our emotions.
It is closer to focusing than most releasing
ideas.

Here are some of the positive reasons for working with the EI form of feelings integration.

1. We prefer to have an intuitive knowing of our bio-messages.

2. We prefer to accept or love our feelings and emotions.

3. We prefer a way to know our natural indwelling wholeness, love, balance, completeness, serenity, power, and what else resides in our essential being.
We meet it through acceptance, love, and direct feeling experience.

4.We prefer to know better what we feel and prefer.

5.We prefer to accept and integrate our feelings, emotions, and sensations.

6. We prefer to know a way that can unstick blocks in our lives.

7. We prefer to live from feeling and action instead of
compulsiveness and addiction.

8. We prefer raise the probability of having good health, energy, clearer perception, and reduced stress.

9. We prefer to accept and love ourselves and others.

10.We prefer to make decisions based on clarity.

11. We prefer another way to experience our feelings, emotions, and sensations without repressing them, avoiding them, trying to rid ourselves of them, dissociating ourselves from them, trying to release their surface energy, talking them away, or physically acting them out.


Nina Kanis



Repost Hiroshi

Here are some additional trouble shooting tips:

Sometimes we can't find our felt sense because we are not acknowledging what we have. We're discounting feelings because they were not the ones we were hunting for or we dismiss certain feelings and sensations because they don't git our definition of a feeling. Blankness. Frustration over not finding feelings. Tingling. Any feeling or sensation or lack of it counts. Sometimes we have to expand our definitions and stop discounting what we're getting.

Subtle sensations count. Knowing them are important.

We may run into feelings without names. That's okay. They are still feelings that don't seem quite like anything else. The more of these inarticulate feelings you meet, the more likely you're allowing the process to go in the right direction. It means you're noting some subtle feelings in your body. You're leaving nothing unattended.

If you locate a dual feeling during your EI and they are socalled positive and negative feelings, see if you can just be in the positive feeling and take in the negative feeling from there. This allowing your positive feeling to observer your negative feeling. You can imagine what goes on there.

You will get images at times with your feelings. This is fine. The problem might arise when you get sucked out of your feeling by paying too much attention to the images. Simply shift your attention back to your feeling. Pay just enough attention to your image then shift back. Changing images can change your feelings.

Sometimes people complain of a lack of images. That's okay too. Not everyone is visually oriented.

William Tekada

Teko

There's still lots more to go in developing tips and troubleshooting. You guys have done a great job so far in getting this great process out there and even more doable.

Here's some more troubleshooting:

*You run smack into your inner critic and it is taking over your attention. Just pay attention to it. Hear it. Don't avoid it. Call it "That knowing" to give you some objective distance. Feel its outer boundaries. Allowing yourself to experience the felt sense of it will assist this part in coming back into you. Perhaps it was a voice of a mom or dad or teacher or boss. Allow it to be there and listen to it. We can accept what it says without being caught up in believing it. people often resist their inner critics and that is what keeps them babbling on.

*You might wonder if you're just making up this EI experience. You are. You created the feeling. The aceptance and love were always there.
This style of thinking, where you wonder if you are just making this all up, is a defense against direct feeling.
This belief and its feelings can be experienced through the CI. Accept it. Love it.

Feel free to jump in and add.

Teko


Here's an old and simple trick, and when you can get the knack of it, it melts resistance very quickly and easily.

Accept and appreciate the resistance.

Welcoming resistance and being willing to fully appreciate it and feel it will do wonders.

A good miserable feeling can be hard to come by after you've been doing this Emoclear stuff for awhile! Don't let that golden opportunity to experience some of life's most interesting feelings get away!

Treasure that moment of resistance, capture it, feel it.
Appreciate it - what a unique phenomenon!

And watch that resistance disappear like a sunset over Maui, leaving a nice warm glow in its place.

Then turn your attention to the original target you were resisting. Things should go much smoother.

Sometimes just handling the resistance to the target is most of the process. Once the resistance is gone, the process flows easily.

Happy integrating,

Yogi




Another important facet of working with the EI is the positive outcome from integrating. Here are some of the possibilities to look for:

1. There is an overall sense of acceptance and relaxation. Any tension that you had previously is gone.

2. There is no sense of emotional charge. Whatever stuckness you integrated has turned back into formless energy. You will have all the memories, but those memories will have no emotional charge.

3. Your formerly stuck emotion will feel less intense and enduring. Your viewpoint is different. You are more objective and accepting about it. Since we have undone the desire to change this object of our accepting or loving attention, it will now appear different to us. We see more of its qualities and clearly.

4. You have a sense of closure and you feel more centered in the present.

5. If you happened to be integrating with the CI in essence--you will transform your target into its polar essence opposite. Rage may become profound love.

6. Your underlying attitude toward your target changes.
If you accepted it you will have a more neutral attitude toward it. If you altered it though love you will likely have a more positive attitude about it.

7. There may be an alteration in your physical state. Not only will the distress and tension be evaporated, you may experience shifts like allergy reductions, less colds etc.

Teko

Sometimes the process is made even easier when we fully experience and integrate our want to change something. The attitude here is:

I allow this to be there.

I want this to be there.

or even

I love this to be here.

Felt with sincerity these attitudes can be very powerful.

Teko


In "Breathwork Exploration" up on the process page there are copius lists of music for breathwork. These lists contain classical music. If you are integrating anxiety you might want to make choices from the Potent Shifting Stage. If you want to integrate anger or high arousal feelings work with the Emotionally Chaotic Stage. If you know sad pieces they would be good for integrating sadness and depressed feelings.

Frank Grabowski


Here are some methods for people to use when they're first starting out to unblock any blocked integration.
Mostly blocked integration comes from not adhering to the first step: the no intention intention. We don't expect newbies to have a full handle on that step or to have throughly installed that intention. Several of the mothods I'm listing here can help us get around the problem of not completely having the no intention intention. Some of these methods will actually help cultivate it.

Here are some tips for unblocking. I expect others to add to these as well.

# Integrate the feeling of wanting to change. Make the feeling of wanting to change or integrate
the focus of the EI. Doing so will often break up the log jam. It also reinforces the no intention intention.

#Exaggerate your feeling. Blow it up. Make it funny or silly. Sometimes this will spontaneously integrate it.

#If there are several feelings there or they are matted together, focus on just one.

#Counter method. Resist integrating what you wanted to integrate. Subvocally command yourself to not integrate it. This paradoxical intention method sometimes get the process kicking.

#Allow yourself to integrate the feeling of pushing or forcing. Simply bring your attention pushing and forcing and allow them to be the focus of your attention.

#If stuck for a time, find something easy to integrate and bring your attention there. That can sometimes start the flow going again.

#Give yourself a break and come back later.

#Accept that you are stuck. Allow stuckness to be the focus.

#Allow fine details and your feelings about those details to be the focus of integration. This makes the target smaller and more manageable if your stuck.

#Feel that it would be nice to integrate this situation, yet you need not.



William Tekada

Hey!

There are a number of everyday occurences that might temporarily lock down the our ability to naturally integrate. Some of these we just have to wait out whilie others might require some remdedial correction.


Here are the lockdowners:

--You all know about dissociation by now. This basically just being split off from your feelings. Actually with patience the EI can repair this condition.

--Going into shock from a traumatic accident. This can put you outside your ability to feel until the shock wears off.

--Not being properly hydrated. If you don't drink enough water you may have a rough time feeling. Always drink enough water.

--Being starved or having low blood sugar can block natural integration. Your brain doesn't have enough glycogen for full function. Your feelings may drift in and out or be so intense and absolute you may be temporarily lost in them. People sometimes have their first panic attacks when suffering from hunger or low blood sugar.

--Being overly tired or exhausted can make finding a felt sense difficult. Get enough sleep.

--Intense compulsions, addictions, overpowering worry can all lock down the ability to naturally integrate. We should bring out attention to feelings that may generate these degense mechanisms.

--Being in actual physical danger may create overwhelm and make integrating more difficult. Still feel what you can and look for the edges of your felt sense. Spread it out further and feel what's going on. There may be a natural tendency to dissociate here.

--Being ill. If you're running a high fever you may spontaneously integrate. However being sick and fatigued from cold or disease can slow the process.
Wait it out. If you are just ill you may locate that feeling of illlness and just stay with it. Perhaps spread it out past the edges.

--Drugs/alcohol can lock someone away from their feelings and block the process. Have at least a day between your drug usage and the NBR.

--Facing the loss of external love, an important job, someone's death. All of these events might be stress for someone people with poor coping ability. They can lock us out. Give yourself a break here when you're truly overwhelmed.

Teko


I'll add in if you ever consciously want an intuitive answer during this process always direct your attention to your felt sense or heart region. You can never go wrong there. Intuition flows from the body or our felt sense of the body. Part of the CI's extremely useful value is that it allows our bodily messages to be heard either by us or our unconscious.

Love, Kelly Brandt


William Tekada




Reposted by Mirika Chen




Some of you have likely already noticed that essence states can be triggered when integrating lines of resisted feelings with the EI. I'm not really going to get into describing these states because some people will deliberately seek them. Let's just say they appear when you are very absorbed in the process of integrating and they are more likely to appear when you have integrated a very highly resisted emotion.
Sometimes they pop in when you are doing a light of integrating on numerous targets.

You'll know them when you experience them directly. They are very pleasant and anything you view in this state is going to look loveable or whole to you. Any emotions you plop in this state dissolves as you are watching it and adds to the intensity of the essence state.

In working with the EI you may come to know two extreme mindsets that can thwart integration and progress.

The 2 are:

1. The mindset of strict control or making our intellect dominate your body. Here our will insists we won't give into that or be be halted by that.

2. The other extreme mindset is never wanting to direct or control feelings. Here every attempt at control is viewed as artificial. The mindset is just to let thoughts roam and play, come and go.

Either extreme can stymie integration. The first is over control and the last is too much detachment to get a felt sense.

Done consciously the EI strikes a middle ground.
It is a semi-controlled process in that you follow certain steps and then at the point of contact and viewing it as "That message" there is a relaxing of any control.

The EI although it accurately mirrors
our natural way of integrating, implies a process or a set of action steps. The letting go of control comes after we have fully connected with a feeling with the no intention intention. We required the semi-controlled steps to do this work consciously, but in the end we stepped back and let go of control to experience our inner nature integrating the energy form back into formlessness. So we're talking semi-controlled natural integrating.

William Tekada

One technique of integrating, other than choosing an event in the past or a present feeling, is to focus on an event happening in the future. Often goals, anxiety,and fear exist in a future scenerio. So you see integrating in a future scenerio is useful.

Imagine an upcoming event and creatively rehearse it just like it was happening now. Allow this imagery to unfold with no intention of getting rid of anything or keeping it. Just watch it openly with the EI. Integrate any desire to change what will happen. If something comes up just run it through all four steps of the EI.


Here's some more simple tricks for unsticking a felt sense:

Ask your felt sense for an image {If you're visual}. Let the image form. Then get an overall felt sense of the image. This can unstick the process.

You're felt sense is frozen on a single emotion like fear.
Allow your felt sense to broaden or stretch its boundaries. What wider feeling does this come from? Is there a felt sense of many related feelings like a mass? Get a felt sense of this mass.

Sometimes taking a break can unstick the process. Giving yourself a rest can give you a fresher perspective and relax any pushing on your pain.


Here are some ways to integrate pain and illness with the EI.

PAIN

Have the no intention intention toward your physical pain. Allow it to be there with no intention of getting rid of it or keeping it.

Integrate the feeling of wanting to change the pain.

Integrate any impatience or low frustration tolerance about the pain. Integrate I can't stand it--it's too much--it's overwhelming style feelings.

Integrate on wanting to alter any of pain's companion emotions. {Anger, anxiety, down feelings etc}.

Separate out any pain sensations or feelings and integrate them one at a time.

Spread out overall felt sense of pain sensation. Allow a picture to come up and fet a felt sense of that. Keep repeating this process and observe the pain sensations reducing.

Also you might wish to locate physical sensations distant from the pain site and integrate them. This can reduce the overall tension.

William Tekada

Hey again:

Here are some pointers on handling illness and its feelings with the EI--

Do the no intention intention on your feelings about your illness.

Integrate any feelings that arise with your illness feelings and sensations--anger, impatience, anxiety, down feelings etc.

Integrate you sick sensations and feelings.

Integrate the feelings that come up from the various beliefs you have about your illness.

Integrate any pushing to get rid of the illness.

Imagine yourself cured 2 years in the future and notice what the cure felt like. Now integrate those feelings and sensations.


Hi:

Here are several more techniques for unsticking integration should it get briefly locked down:

Recalling the felt sense of integration. Here we recall what it felt like previously to integrate the same or a similar feeling. This can set integration in motion.
Remind yourself too of the no intention intention.

Sometimes if you consider only integrating for the present time this can put integration under less pressure if someone has not yet learned to allow those feelings to be there with no intention of getting rid of them or keeping them.

Saying no to integration. This method can stop the self-pressuring that may be going on below awareness. Here we tell ourselves not to integrate. If there is some oppositional intent ther, it can trigger an immediate integration.

Liz

Another useful method for conscious integration with the EI is to just locate a recent event where you have felt uncomfortable. Here we get with that feeling and fully feel it before we experience it as "That message". Here we just experience the feeling for as long as we can. The feeling remains in our consciousness. We add no ideas or images to it. We just observe and experience the feeling. In time this feeling will integrate if we do not try to get rid of it or keep it. Usually in brief time.


Feeling in a fiesty mood? Love a good old fashion battle of thoughts--the argument?

Perhaps one of the reason I enjoy mentally sparring is that I generally don't personalize it and I can integrate it during the activity.

Since we are all mostly involved in interpersonal relations where conflict emerges and some arguments develop, we might want to know how to use the CI in this capacity.

Handling arguments with the EI:

Integrate your feelings about your opponent.

Integrate your feelings about your opponents viewpoints.

Integrate your feelings about any names they might call you.

Integrate any feelings you have about needing to control your opponent's behavior or opinions.

Integrate any emotions you have about being in this position.

Integrate any feelings you have about wanting your oppenent to be just, reasonable, or logical.

Integrate any feelings you have about wanting them to agree with you.

Integrate any feelings you have about how defensive or blockheaded they are.

Integrate the dire need to for them to agree with you and see the error of their thoughts.

Integrate any feelings you have about your opponent not accepting you or your ideas.

Integrate any feelings they might have from their vantage point.

William Tekada


For those of you who are concerned about missing underlying feelings while doing the EI, fear no more!

When integrating a feeling, if there is a feeling beneath it, it will naturally emerge. Feelings often happen in layers. After we integrate one feeling, the related feeling, underneath it, surfaces. Sometimes we will discover socalled postive feelings beneath a socalled negative feeling. Sometimes whole strings of feelings will rise up one on top of another to be integrated.
Sometimes many related strings of feelings will abruptly all integrate at the same instant. At such time you may trigger a strong sense of essence. Most times, when we are more experienced and trust the process, we need not ask for an underlying feeling. It will surface on its own.

Teko

PRESSURE

Deadline at work.

You have a sense of hurry, hurry, hurry.

You must do things perfectly.

Not having enough time.

A sense of impossibility.

Seeing all of what you have to do at once.

People want you to move faster.

Your job is on the line.


William Tekada


Here is a list of situation where the NBR might be employed in substance abuse situations.

SUBSTANCE ABUSE

Feeling a strong urge.

Going into drug place or bar.

Needing to feel good.

Needing to block pain.

Needing to feel less anxious around others.

Deserving to get high.

After an argument.

Self-downing episode.

Having to cope with a difficult emotional situation.

Relapse provoking situations.

Feeling frustrated or impatient.

You thoughts keep going to the substance and how to obtain it.

Not knowing the future.

Losing a job.

End of a relationship.

Friends who abuse.

Someone nagging you to use.

Old friends.

A relapse.

Being detoxed.

Bored.

When pressured.

Facing socila involvement.

Taking a risk.

Stressed.

When angry, anxious, depressed, or guilty.

Grieving.

Becoming involved in a relationship.

Decisions.


Liz

ASSERTIVENESS

Want to express self to important others.

Tell other what you want.

Talk about yourself.

Ask important questions.

Talking up in a group.

Asking for a raise.

Confronting someone.

Saying no.

Fearing hurting somone with your words.

Someone trys to tell you what you're thinking and feeling.

A disagreement.

Requesting a desired behavior from another.

Initiate meetings.

Make a date.

Making eye contact.

Responding to criticism.

Someone demands an explanation after you say no.

Speaking up no matter how anxious you feel.

Fearing looking pushy.

Someone gives you the silent treatment or avoids talking with you.

Someone is trying hard to convince you of something.

Someone is taking advantage of us.

Someone is requesting something from us we don't want to give.

Giving compliments.

Sharing feelings and thoughts.

Someone trys to curtail your conversation.

Focus on the feelings connected with these beliefs and allow them to integrate.


Dan Canepa


BOREDOM

When and where you might feel bored.

Activities and tasks you find boring.

Conversations you find boring.

Relating to others not on the same intellectual or emotional wavelength.

Activities mismatched with your talents and abilities.

Unstimulating and repetitive tasks.

Waiting for inspiration.

A slow part of a movie.


Teko


Here is a list of feelings targets concerning decisions and goals:

DECISIONS & GOALS

Conflict.

Choosing between jobs, people, directions,

All choices appear equal.

Choice must be pefect.

Feeling impulsive.

Want to keep all options alive.

Many choices to make.

Worried about "bad" decisions.

Wanting to know all the factors.

Not enough time to decide.

Feelings about long-term consequences.

Fearing the unknown.

Going back and forth.

Looking for feedback.

Mistaken decisions.

High expectations.

Low expectations.

Having to commit.

Imagining goals.

Fearing rejection or loss.

Second guessing.


Liz

HEALTH

The physical sensations of an illness.

A fever.

Anxieties about an illness.

An overall sense of your immune system.

A sense of god health.

Feelings about exercise.

Feelings about food.

Feelings about sleep.

Feelings about a diagnosis.

Body image.

Feelings about: obesity, heart difficulties, blood pressure, diabetes, joint & foot problems, inactivity, dentists, doctors, and hospitals.

Pain

Not being able to stand pain.

Struggling to sleep.


Teko


Hi Emoclearians:

EI List will focus on feelings around perfectionism:

Having to do things perfectly.

Believing fallible humans can be perfect.

Believing we must be exteme talents or geniuses.

Making mistakes.

Self-condemnation for not being perfet.

Failing at something.

Getting an average performance.

Believing a law exists saying you must be perfect.

Handling imperfections.

Seeing imperfections in others.

Feeling an inner tension over having to have things perfect.

Appraising your accomplishments.

Feeling you can only be loved or accepted if you do things perfectly.

Procrastinate to avoid imperfection and self-loathing.

Focused on next project.

Accepting praise for average performances.

Being focused on the end-result.

Experiencing shoulds and musts.

Seeing only the negative.

Rating self by performance.

Believing I must be outstanding or special or I am nothing.

Feeling worthless if I fail to achieve greatness.

Errors as disasters.


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Potential targets/circumstances for guilt:

Disapointing someone close or important.

Failing your personal standards.

Doing something you believe you shouldn't.

Being caught at something you should not be doing.

Making a gaff at work.

Not living up to an agreement.

Letting a lover down.

Not living up to religious rules.

Waking up in a drunk tank.

Failure to complete goals.

Feeling responsible for situations outside your control.

Not passing a test.

Not performing up to your expectations.


Nick Abruzzi

A target/circumstance list for impatience & Low frustration tolerance.


Traffic.

A bank line or any line.

Waiting for a cheque.

Someone's late.

Learning something new.

Making a new habit.

Waiting.

Being emotionally overwhelmed.

Believing you need something.

Getting someplace.

Somebody makes a mistake.

You want to say something, but the other person keeps talking.

Listening to a bore, braggart, bser, complainer, or nag.

Doing chores.

You make an error.

Working with procrastinators.

Working with sloppy people.


Max Venhoven




A list of potential targets/circumstances for inferiority/self-downing:

Making a mistake or error.

Not living up to expections.

Comparing self to others.

When undertaking goals.

Not succeeding at something.

Getting rejected.

Break up of a relationship.

Losing a job.

Test results.

Evaluations.

Poor performance.

Being joked about.

Being cheated on.



Frank Grabowski

Some targets/circumstances for jealousy:

Seeing a loved one with someone else.

Thinking about partner and where abouts.

Believing you lost them already.

Finding a telephone number.

Reading their emails.

When they are late.

Seeing them have too much fun with others.

Imagining what they're doing.

Remembering past incidents.

Moments when it seems you're not getting attention.

Partner's conversations about previous relationships.

Stories friends tell.

Comparing self to an unknown person.



Julian Kammerz



Target/circumstance list for envy:

Comparing possessions to others.

Comparing succeses to others.

Seeing others succeed.

Comparing any aspect of ourself with another.

Comparing talents.

Comparing children.

Comparing where you live.

Comparing where you are on some fantasy scale with others.

Comparing self with parent's or siblings.


Peter Warren


An all purpose target/circumstance list for relationships:

Times of argument.

Right/wrong.

Blame.

When decisions have to be made.

Children.

Money.

Attention.

Sex.

In-laws.

Religion.

Values.

Times of incompatibility.

achievement/goals.

hobbies.

Possessions.

commitment.

Oppenness.

career.

housing.

chores.

physical appearence.

schools.

Hostility.

assertiveness.

respect.

common/separate interests.

honesty.

responsibility.

romance/passion.

socializing.

common annoyances.


Clark



The target/circumstance list for Loveaholism:

Feeling empty.

When feeling alone and needy.

After a breakup.

Saturday night.

Out to dinner/movies alone.

Where you used to go.

In a relationship.

Listening to music that stimulates memories.

Whenever you're reminded you're alone.

When rejected.

Not being called back.

Being with coupled friends.


Nina Kanis


A target circumstance list for alienation:

When you notice your differences with others.

You're seem to be on the periphery at work.

You work a night shift.

When ever you avoid joining a group.

You are out and feel embarrassed about your family.

When you feel inclined to act like you're someone else.

You try to overcompensate for your background.

When you imagine others think less of you or are judging you.

You avoid any situations where you think your shortcomings will be noticed.

When you compare yourself to others in a group.


When you try to prove how good you are to others.

You can't relax in groups

A target/circumstance list for poor impulse control:

When routine tasks and chores have to be done.

Moments when you overdepend on others.

Tempting foods, habits.

When you don't think of others needs.

The need to criticise.

Giving into tantrums.

When you feel like acting out hostile behavior.

When you might act out sexually.

When you fail to recognize boundaries.

When you don't observe rules.

When you know the limits and you refuse to observe them.

When you feel entitled, deserving, and rules don't apply.

When you feel you can by without putting forth any effort.

Kendra





Albert Venhoven


A target/circumstance list for approvalitis:

Currying favor at work.

Approval seeking in relationships.

When someone stares at the "tap" of approval.

Doing things in hope of recognition.

Hunting approval for attractiveness.

Attempting to control others for approval.

Being "correct".

Saying the right things.

Approval for possessions, position, status.

Immediately after being disapproved or rejected.


Albert Venhoven


This list of targets/circumstances is on arguments:

Personalizing what another says.

Feeling the anxious need to control another.

When you demand that another agrees with you.

Pushing to change someone.

Fighting over values or beliefs.

Feeling an inclination to oppose.

Fighting over money.

Fighting to make yourself heard.

Fighting over blame.

Trying to control subject being discussed.

Protecting your feelings.

Demanding approval.

Fighting over justice or fairness.


Clark

A target/circumstance list for feeling distrust and unsafe is:

When you are around others.

In certain places.

In relationships.

When falling in love.

When someone gets close.

When about to have sex.

When making commitments or business pacts.

When someone asks for personal information.



Julian Kammerz

A target circumstance list for eating problems:

Facing a refrigerator.

When you are anxious or down.

When you are angry,

When tempted by your favorite foods.

When you have low blood sugar and feel very hungry.

When you feel self-conscious about your body.

When you knock yourself.

After an argument.

Things haven't gone right.

When you believe you deserve to treat yourself.

In front of the tv.

Later night munchies.

After you've gone back on your promise to yourself.

After conflicts with your family.

Offers of more from hosts.

Feeling guilty.

Carol Howell

Here's a target/circumstance list for death:

Fear of intense pain.

Fear of losing control.

Fear of the unknown and what you put on the unknown.

Fear of becoming dependent.

Fear of loss of self.

Fear of a meaningless life.

Fear of suffocation.

Fear of a hellish afterlife.

Regrets and guilts about life.

Fear of extended illness.

Fear of the loss of quality of life.

Fear of losing consciousness.

Anxiety about never seeing loved ones again.

Fear of becoming paralyzed or a vegetable.


Dan Canepa

A target circumstance list for shame/embarassment:

After receiving disaproval from others.

After you do something silly, wierd, foolish, or dumb.

You make a major mistake.

You wear odd clothes.

You're nude.

Sexuality.

Your social status, possessions, money, house, car.

You're in a bathing suit.

You are out of place fashion wise.

You read about a mistake you made in the papers.


Peter Warren



A target/circumstance list for feeling blocked:

When you are feeling frustrated about clearing or integrating a stuck emotion.

When you are experiencing a block to a stuck behavior.


When you experience a block to dissolving a belief.

When you experience a block in relating to others.

When you feel blocked about taking action.

When you feel blocked about making a decision.

When you feel blocked about setting time aside to do the work.

When you feel blocked about learning.

When you feel blocked about meeting others.

When you feel blocked about an illness.

When you feel blocked about setting goals.


When you feel blocked about altering parts of your personality.

When you feel blocked about a compulsion/addiction.

When you feel your creativity is blocked.

When you feel your feeling is blocked.

When you feel success is blocked.

When you feel your deeper self is blocked.

When you feel your energy is blocked.


Nina Kanis


A target/circumstance for sports performance:

Butterflys prior to a contest.

Tension/anxiety about prior planning.

Tension/anxiety about specific athletic skills.

Learning new skills.

Physical training.

Making errors in contests.

Outlook on losing.

Outlook on winning.

Getting feedback from coaching staff.

Relationships with teammates.

"Choking" in contests.

Losing focus in contests.

Getting up for contests.

View of working within a team concept.

Motivation factors.

View of practice & preparation.

Impatience or low frustration tolerance

Here is a target/circumstance list for creativity:

When you are creatively blocked.

When you procrastinate over creatve projects.

When you require to be in the flow or peak of performance.

When you pressure yourself about creativity.

When you are not inspired.

When you spend to much time in preparation.

When you have not sold works.

When others are not supportive.

Conflict with others.


When you are frustrated with instruments, machinery, computers.

Demanding creative perfection.

None of your ideas are working or vibrant yet.

You have deadlines.

Impatience with the process.

Looking for approval.

Allowing the creative juices to flow.

Emil Pritko

A target/circumstance list for blame:

An accident occurs.

You carry a long smoldering hatred.

You get rejected for a job.

Turned down for a promotion.

You are not successful yet.

Your youthful background was not good.

Your parent or parents were bad news.

When you need to control and be right.

You are habitually broke.

Your relationship falls apart.

You have no relationship.

What people and situations blamed.



Fred Tellford

A target/circumstance list for entitlement:

When you've had an argument or have been hurt.

When you face an open refrigerator after a difficult day.

When you pass a cocktail lounge or bar after an argument or stressful day.

When you feel wronged.

Your beliefs about deservingness, @%!%@!+, specialness, and having whatever you want.

When you are demanding.

When an impulse seizes you.

When you feel weak and needy and that others should take care of you.

When you feel others owe you.

When you believe you shouldn't have to tolerate any imposition, boredom, or frustration.

When someone abruptly imposes limits on you.

When partners, who over indulged you, stop.

When terminated or laid off.

When involved in legal difficulties because of entitlement.

When you feel the urge to abuse, humiliate, or demean someone to get your demands met.

When the people around you break off relationships with you.

Nina Kanis



Here's a target/circumstance list for shyness or public speaking anxiety:


When you do something you perceive as silly, wierd, foolish, or dumb.

Your thoughts jumble.

You suddenly feel self-conscious about your attire.

You feel your mouth become dry as you try to speak.

You find yourself making silly self-conscious gestures.

You feel the other person are looking down on you or will reject you.

You feel your heart beating and short of breath.

Your hands are clammy.

You think you look like a total idiot.

You feel a nervous sweat.

Feeling unreal.

Have trouble focusing or recalling.

Thoughts race ahead.

Forgetting what to say next.

Butterflys.

Unsteady legs.

I must impress others or I'm a zero.

Shuffling feet.

You feel you must look really great.

You can't stand looking like a goofball.


Allen

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What to do for a stuck healing shift in doing integration?

Hello Brenda:

If there's a stuck healing shift or bodily shift into integration do some of the following:

1-Remind yourself that you're not attempting to make the feeling to go away. Reconfirm the No Intention Intention. Allow the feeling to be there. Don't try to rid yourself of it or keep it.

2-Get the feeling's brief knowing. What is it all about? What does it want? What does it want me to do?

3-Is there any controlling or pushing going on? Do you feel in a hurry about this?

4-Is there a feeling below this feeling? If that's contacted, the uppermost one will tend to dissolve.

5-The shift is sometimes ever so subtle. It can be missed if you're not giving your full and relaxed attention.

6-Has your breath stopped? A few deep breaths can get the process going toward completion.

7-Some nodding with your head toward your feeling area can be like giving bodily approval. This can be all that's required to get the process going.

Nina Kanis

Emoclearians:



Sometimes ask your felt sense some open-ended questions pulls the switch and gets the conveyer belt moving. Like:

"What's beneath this?"

"How can this become worse?"

"What encompasses the whole of this?"

"What's allowing this to be there?"

The Emoclear "Little Pocket Intensifiers" could give a jolt here and loosen the block up.

A future orientation in time question would fit. Ask your overall felt sense, "What would this feeling feel like, after it got accepted and shifted?" That could whack the bugger button.

Dialogue with the stuckness and find out presisely what it wants. What has to happen to unstick?

Widen your felt sense with another label--"Those knowing over there".
Get a larger sense of the feeling. Like what more does it encompass?

Give it a double bind question like: "Would I rather feel this feeling or would I rather allow this feeling?"

Get the felt sense and ask the feeling if it's part of a mass of feelings. Then get an overall feeling for the mass of feelings.


Worse comes to worse you can always take a break and hit the feeling later when you're fresh.

John Gastly

Hello,

I've found that sometimes getting an image or a voice from the feeling leads to a shift soon afterwards.

If you learned how to intuitively make metaphoric symbols (Metaphor Runner) out of your feeling, it will have far less resist and will shift without effort.


Janice Curtin

Emoclearians:

Nuther way is to let an image form. You don't have to be a good visualizer. It happens by being with your feeling. You let the feeling form it. This lets a shift happen.

Begin too to notice more sensations in the feeling. Take in all the sensation you can.

A heartbeat region hold can amplify the feeling and help with shifts. It adds energy. It also makes the intuitive connection deeper.

Clark

Hello all,

Similar to the future orientation time questions is using "what if frames". You feel the feeling, then ask the feeling: "What if you shifted, what would that be like?" Getting a taste of the resolution or shift can open the process up.

Bruce

Hello,

Sometimes if you alter the label on your feeling, it can get a shift going. The secret is to avoid pushing to get rid of it. Get that intuitive message.

Another approach I've used is to briefly put an imaginary frame around it. Maybe something funny. I got the idea from an earlier post where someone mentioned putting big polka dot frames around an emotion. Smiley face frames like those emoticons.

Notice the wide space around a feeling. This often has a freeing effect. The shift comes soon after.


Bonny Keats

Hello all,

In keeping with the above great tips, I would like to add that the attitude one brings to inner work is of supreme importance.

The attitude I have found to work the best for me is one of exploration, tempered with appreciation for whatever one finds going on within their consciousness.

Forget about trying to change something, fix something, get rid of something, transform something, let go of something, release something, achieve something, and so on. This kind of thinking sets up a conquering-type mentality where one does battle with their own emotions and inner symbols.

Instead, its a walk in the park - enjoy all the sights sounds, and sensations. Appreciate and explore everything you find.

And drop fear - after all, are we trying to hurt ourselves? No - we have the conscious and unconscious intention to restore balance and happiness. So trust yourself to reveal to yourself whatever is needed. Your unconscious and the techniques will provide all the tools and realizations that are needed.

Appreciation, exploration, and trust. And as was mentioned before - no one said it was against to the rules to take breaks. Don't get locked into a repeating cycle with an issue - break it up, approach it from different viewpoints, stay fresh and keep a good attitude.

And last but not least - a sense of humor. Many, many times for me, the breakthrough on an issue is accompanied by the humor of seeing myself having struggled in unnecessary ways because of the filters I was functioning through. It's like watching someone struggle to open a locked door, and after hours of trying absolutely brilliant lock-picking techniques, the person remembers, "Oh yeah - I have the key in my pocket!"

Make processing fun to do. The lighter the attitude, the faster the resistances will dissolve. Appreciation, acceptance, and a spirit of exploring will melt resistance in the same way a flame will melt a ball of wax. When you get overly serious, the flame goes out, and the wax hardens up again. So keep it light.

Really, there is only one reason why anything ever sticks - it is because something is being resisted. Therefore, there are only two things needed - 1. locate the resistance, and 2. process it.

Keep it simple, keep it fun.

Cheers,

Yogi


Hello,


Above all it's your friend down there. Truly. Okay sometimes friends are a little uncomfortable. They're letting you know something's important.

The shift will come.

Dan Canepa
Hello,

A wealth of ideas already.

I seldom answer my own questions, but today's the first day of a New Year.

Here's more ideas.

Permit the feeling of wanting, demanding, or pushing to change or getting rid of feelings to be there. Give it your undivided attention. Ask it: "What would it be like if the feeling remained the same? How might that feel acceptable?"

Ask: "What if a very small percentage of your feeling was accepted? What would that feel like?"

Are there parts of the feeling that could be accepted first? Which parts would transform first?

What would it be like if the feeling filled the room?
The solar system? The Universe?

What if you integrated a feeling next to the one that had not shifted? What would you notice?

Imagine someone else talking about your feeling in a positive way. Imagine a television show going over all the positives involved with your unshifted feeling.
Then feel your feeling.

Imagine your feeling dancing in the dark. Then feel your feeling.


Does your feeling require understanding? Appreciation?
Caring?


Brenda McKinney


Hello,

What does your feeling want most of all? Pay attention for the answer.

Sandy Dosmire
Hello Emoclearians,

Very good ideas on handling stuck shifts.

These are are others--

Expand and shrink the feeling. Do this several times, but without any intention to get rid of it. Your intention is just to watch it expand and shrink. Some intuitive insights might come to you. At that point the feeling shifts.

Imagine someone else accepting your feelings and getting a shift. Then go back into yourself and continue to feel the feeling there.

Experience your unshifted feeling as consciousness, the same consciousness with which you're watching it.
The whole thing fades out.

Make sure you drink water and had enough sleep. Not being hydrated or rested can stick things good.

Play around with the senses or submodalities of the feeling. Make it louder/quieter. Harder/softer. Brighter/darker. Nearer/further. Create any submodality opposite pair and experience your feeling through the sensations.

Completely resist the shift.

If you notice several feelings lumped together, pick one out. Work with that.

See your feeling as a personal friend with a story. Listen to the story.

If you feel frustrated or stuck about the stuckness, then work with that.

Nick Abruzzi

Hello,

Another method is to direct your attention away from the site to shift and examine other feelings in a distant part of your body. Give your relaxed attention to these new feelings or sensations. Allow those feelings to integrate. Mysteriously if you return to the previous target your attitude of acceptance is carried over there. Integration or a shift frequently occurs.

Someone can also segment or divide up a feeling mentally. Notice different parts of it where it is most intense and least intense. Move to the edge or periphery. Give your attention there until some begins to integrate or shift. Then the rest follows.


Hannoch

Hello Emoclears,

Do a center line flush. Go down the central meridian of your body with your palm. Do it slowly. Make one or two passes. This can help a shift occur.

Carl Stohle

Hello,

If stuck I ask, could this feeling get any worse? Is there an even worse case than this? This can get the shifting wheels turning.

Experience the edge of the feeling and experience it as if the feeling already shifted. Then ask in the past tense, "What once stood in your way?" Continue to pay attention until the flash of the answer arrives and the feeling shifts.

Alyce Waters

Hello:

Some additional ideas-

If the door seems shut tight, then dialogue with it.

Integrate feelings of wanting change. Make the feeling of wanting change the target.

If you find yourself pushing or forcing change--make these feelings your targets.

If feelings of stuckness, exasperation, frustration are present, let them be the targets.

Locate fine details in your feeling. Allow these to be what you integrate.


Max Venhoven

Hi,

Don't forget:

Snap back breathing in combo with a head or facial grasp when directed at a stuck target will bring what required to the surface and integrate it.

Using imagery tech like the Twilight Imagery Process, the Desynchronizer will create a brain wave states where stuck targets will integrate or dissolve.

Placing the stuck target in an immense space like that Tibetan Earth/Sky meditation can unbind it.

Surrender the target to the biding of your unconscious. If you're framing things in terms of spiritual, then allow the spirit to wash over it and integrate it.

Use the Forgiveness Exercise on the process page.

Use a combination sandwitch of energy processing and feelings work.

Notice that everything is just as it should be.

Notice that the presence of healing or the unconscious is indwelling within the stuckness.

Know that integration will happen.


Mirika Chen

Emoclearians:

Three sure fire methods to add to the encylopedia of shifting methods.

1. Go for a long brisk walk. Many a time tough stuff has shifted on a walk. (Drop running, jogging, swimming in there)

2. Do what the feeling asks you to do. Badda bing-shift.

3. Warm water bathing sometimes will get the locks unlocked.

4. Make love. You can be laying there afterwards and things shift.

5. Listening to deeply moving music can untie things.

6. Helping someone else out can suddenly unlock the door.



John Gastly

Hello,


Place my palm on the area that hasn't shifted and place my palm on an intuitively chosen energy center. Leave myself open to what has not shifted. Go into a meditative state. Often an image will enter my awareness. Then the shift.

Jayne Burgos

Hi all,

Damn just when you think this thread could possibily run out of ideas, then another shows up. A lot of savvy clearers and integrators here!

One I've used is getting the stuck emotion to shift is to have it provide me with all of its beliefs. I write them down on a pad. That can get a shift going. If it doesn't you can start integrating those beliefs, belief by belief. Then go back to the stuck emotion. It will usuallly shift.

Tom Cuthbertson

Hello,

One more. You can enter into the feeling, really immerse yourself in it. Then you can look out through its eyes and see what it sees. This could bring about a shift.

You could also hear what the feeling hears. This calls on a metaphor like immersion.

Dan Canepa


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Here are some trouble shooting tips:

Sometimes we can't find our felt sense because we are not acknowledging what we have. We're discounting feelings because they were not the ones we were hunting for or we dismiss certain feelings and sensations because they don't get our definition of a feeling. Blankness. Frustration over not finding feelings. Tingling. Any feeling or sensation or lack of it counts. Sometimes we have to expand our definitions and stop discounting what we're getting.

Positive feelings also are grist for the integrating mill. They count too. They also have valuable messages for us. In fact they can be emotionally nourishing. Integrating serenity, love, openness can be very valuable. Integrating some positive feelings can take us out of needing something we already have.
Notice in your body where positive feelings might reside. They are good to hear. Being open to all feelings, socalled positive or negative, helps us to be open.

Subtle sensations count. Knowing them are important.

We may run into feelings without names. That's okay. They are still feelings that don't seem quite like anything else. The more of these inarticulate feelings you meet, the more likely you're allowing the process to go in the right direction. It means you're noting some subtle feelings in your body. You're leaving nothing unattended.

If you locate a dual feeling during your NBR and they are socalled positive and negative feelings, see if you can just be in the positive feeling and take in the negative feeling from there. This allowing your positive feeling to observer your negative feeling. You can imagine what goes on there.

You will get images at times with your feelings. This is fine. The problem might arise when you get sucked out of your feeling by paying too much attention to the images. Simply shift your attention back to your feeling. Pay just enough attention to your image then shift back. Changing images can change your feelings.

Sometimes people complain of a lack of images. That's okay too. Not everyone is visually oriented.

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Hi,
In the beginning. being open to whatever arises is important. Instead of questioning whether you're doing a process correctly, it may be helpful to just relax and allow yourself to make as many mistakes as you can. "Anything worth doing well is worth doing poorly at first." Many people have the tendency to try something new and if it doesn't work perfectly at the first try, they'll quit and return to their comfort zones. There is nothing wrong with making mistakes. Welcome them in the beginning. See them as feedback and adjust accordingly. Perhaps, we could put up a thread that emphasizes the importance of failure and how helpful it really is. It is interesting to know that some of the most successful people make more mistakes and fail more than unsuccessful people.
Anyway, here's a repost on doubt: (If you're working on picking up intuitive messages, don't worry about whether what arises is really intuitive. Just do your best to welcome whatever arises. Often excessive doubt may also be characterized by doubtful thoughts. These thoughts will energize the feeling of doubt and the feelings of doubt will energize the thoughts. Being aware of these thoughts and seeing them as just thoughts and not necessarily the truth will often cut down the doubt. Once you are aware of these doubtful thoughts, it is often easier to gently shift your focus from your thoughts to the act of doing a process.)

Hello Ed,

The negative results would only be true if you found out through testing the hypothesis. You can't know anything will work or not work before you do something. If you do something then you'll know if it worked or not.
It won't ever work if you don't do it. Do it and see. You might be surprised.

Bonny Keats


Negative predictions are often tossed off by persons locked into anxiety and depression. It keeps them mired in inaction. "Why even bother--It ain't gonna work."

One of the sure ways I know passed inaction and negative predictions, is to barge ahead. Do what you need to do even with the initial hailstorm of negativity. Commited action and follow through tears those negative predictions to shreds.

What's the expression? "You'll never know unless you try" There's wisdom in that even though I like "do" over "try".

Sometimes people get in a holding pattern waiting for their damn feelings to change before they do something important. "The Call to Action" is based on the idea that if there's something important to do, then you go for it. Action and follow through are potent clearers. You see first hand that your negative predictions didn't amount to a hill of beans. That's potent balm.

Persons with anxiety and depression especially can fall into the trap of waiting until the winds change. Waiting until they feel okay before they attempt things. Most times that ain't happening. The big way out of stuckness and negativity is to get up and do something that's required. That busts up negativity real good.
The person who takes action feels less the effect of things and more like the effecter. They can get an immediate result. Like something important gets completed. There's little rewards and big rewards in taking action. Our physiology is effected by action. Action will raise most person's moods. That's where good feelings begin to spring forth. In being involved with activities. Action also takes your mind off the hypnotic crap that kicks your butt around when you're lolling around in making predictions and feeling like hell.

I got shoved around by anxiety and depression when I was younger. I didn't have any tech other than meditation and exercise. The day I began making changes was the day I decided to get off my keester and started doing things regardless of my messed up feelings. I started making to do lists and doing things. I said "Screw this nonsense". That was a turning point for me. Big time. In several weeks I found my damn anxiety and depression were mostly behind me.
Getting active no matter how you feel turns things around. The negativity dims out the more the important things in your life are getting done. Depression, anxiety, and negativity magnify themselves in inactivity.

The negative predictions are mental crap. They evaporate when you're making movement. The only way someone gets a job is by taking action. The only way someone gets a date is by asking for them. Rejection and getting shot down for jobs is part of living. You live with that and learn not to jump on yourself. Eventually you get a job or a date.

Failure and a lack of success are fully guaranteed if you don't take action. Over the long haul I've found if you take action you'll have some success. At least you'll have something to do!

Clear and integrate away, but do what you have to do even if your situation seems grim at first. That can change the tide. Negativity is just mental crap. Meaningful activity hammers right through that.


John Gastly


How does one deal with the doubt of not being able to do the Emoclear Processes? How does one deal with the mindset that I might or could fail or I'm afraid of failing in using these processes? I don't know if it helps to try clearing the doubt with Emoclear processes. It's like going in circles. Using the process you doubt to clear the doubt...


Hello 1zn,

How does somebody deal with the doubt of not being able to do an EmoClear process?

Many newbies to any kind of processes have very strong doubts and reservations about a process performing. It is estimated that 90% or more of people working with energy processes have doubts or do not believe the process will work. Fortunately people experiment and get surprised when they work.

It is a little known that people do not need to believe in the efficacy of a process for it to work. They need only to experiment with it a number of times perhaps starting with correct targets. Like simple feelings. Perhaps less resisted feelings at first so that someone knows how to do the process and builds some confidence.


Could you make a joke about the worst that can happen if you fail at getting a process to work.

I give you a sample.

I Bettina have failed at Emoclear. I no longer deserve to live in human society. I will have my passport torn to shreds. I will wear a shroud and have a tattoo on my bicep pronouncing "I am an Emoclear imbecile". Bettina the Emoclear outcast. I will be hideously mocked where ever I go. I will be hated for my failure to make Emoclear succeed. There goes Bettina the FOOL who could not clear or integrate a simple feeling. She could not integrate the tingling in her finger tips. Her fingers tingle for 40 days. Thrown out of Emoclearia and hated everywhere. Good riddance.

Is is good to see what fear of failure means. This may unravel the tension about failing and performance.

Somebody may clear something regardless of their doubt or fear of failure. The problem with the fear of failure is that it may be create self-sabotage to avoid the fear of failure. Some with very strong doubts may pressure themselves and stop processing too soon or not do it at all.

What would it mean if you could do Emoclear? Would it change something in your life that you feel uncomfortable about changing?

Feel that fear of failure. Sit down and talk with it politely. Hear what it has to say. This may bring many things to light for you.

With any processes there will be some who might not get results. There is always 5% with most techniques. Good fortune to you 1zn!

Bettina Kohler

Izn

I doubt everything. I suspend my doubt to test something.

Some doubt gets like a chant. Someone gets anxious about doing a process and they either focus on doubting their ability, the process, or they keep questioning whether they're doing the process correctly. They have to put their attention on the process and leave those questions for later. Doubt and questions of correctness should follow having done a process, not appear before it.

I've doubted techniques and done them. It's a newbie thing. Someone might integrate and process even if they doubt. Focus on the process not the doubt. Let the doubt and the checking go into the background.

Persons may integrate doubting their ability or the process.

Sandy Dosmire


Steve Mensing mentioned making even more doubt because excessive doubt was trance like. I found that if I started consciously making more and more doubts, the doubting ceased in a short time. One can do the same with Monkey Mind. You create more and more thoughts and worries. They loose strength, slow down, and stop.


Robert


All of those answers are first rate.

Keep in mind doubt and skepticism are excellent things. They protect us. They are are not really a problem to processing and integrating unless they take over the field of awareness as they often do with performance anxiety. Excessive doubting and "checking" can interfere. If they are prominent in the field of awareness then they need to be delt with in some way.

The typical ways of handling doubt and checking are to:

*Fully experience those doubting feelings in your body, label them to get outside them, get their intuitive message, and accept or love them.

*If the doubt seems to hang real tough then it wants to be heard. Have a dialogue with it and discover what it wants. Dialoging with doubts is very effective in bringing unconscious elements to awareness. Often there will be a shift and the doubt dissolves. Listen up.

*There's a potential challenge which may create unconscious sabotage or blocking. If there's a fear of failure undergirding the doubt's presence, then it should be dealt with directly. Find out what the worse case scenerio is. See how you will live through it and what you might learn. Often examining what failing is may lead to a reduction in doubting.

*Some doubts, if they are obsessive, may be covering over strong feelings. If you can shift to the feelings beneath the doubting and experience them, you are likely to find the doubts evaporating.

*Write all your doubts on paper and objectifiy them. Jotting them down may disempower them and may lead to a sudden gut level insight into this fear of failure and doubt.

*I like exageration, magnification, and joking as potential ways of taking the steam our of intrusive doubts. Here we blow things up out of proportion. The "LIttle Pocket Intensifier" is a simple exercise for intensifying feelings of doubt.

*Ask your feelings of doubt what they would be like after you accepted them and knew what they wanted.
How would you feel? What would you notice? How would your processing be going?

*Instead of doubting if ourselves or a method will work, it might be helpful to shift our attention to processing itself. We may have to do this several times when ever we get anxious doubting or anxious checking on whether we're performing the process correctly.

*In some processes we do a SUD scale after the process to see if we've had some measurable sucess. We wouldn't do a SUD Scale after a process is underway or midway--we save it for the end. The same with any form of evaluation. How can something be evaluated before the end? Isn't doubt asking for an evaluation before the end of the process?

*Doubt can be a little like daisy pulling. I love her, I love her not, I love her. The unconscious can use doubt to interfere with a process. There's usually some anxiety at work when doubting and questioning are underway. Sit with the doubting and questioning and breathe into them. An image, a sound, a knowing feeling in your body may arrise. There's information here.

*Bring up parts of your doubt that are hidden. Repeatedly ask the question what if. What if I can't get this? What if I can't do this. What if I fail? What if...

*Dialogue with any impatience or pressuring that travels with the doubts. They have much to offer.

Take care, Steve


1zn:

A newbie will help themselves if they start to find different ways how these stuck or resisted targets are valuable. Doubt serves many useful purposes. It does some darn good things for us. When a newbie begins to see the value of their stuck doubt, the resistance toward the doubt lifts.

In all cases of stuckness someone has decided something is unwanted, not good for them, or unpleasant. Newboids want to give doubt the heave or they try hard to get their awarness off of it. The move around here is to become fully aware of the stuck deal and find it valuable, likeable, allowable, loveable etc.
It integrates in this permissiveness.


John Gastly


Hi all,

Science is built upon doubt, testing, and thinking past the envelope. Breakthroughs and discoveries are made because of the interaction of new ideas, doubt, and testing. Doubt never proved anything valid or invalid. Testing did. If something is valid it survives the rigors of testing.

Doubt is nothing more than energy in the form of a belief in our minds and a feeling in our bodies. It has no substantiality other than the energy with which it was created. Doubt is no more substantial than any other belief or feeling. It may be suspended, resisted, or it may be integrated back into the formless energy from whence it came. It's our appraisal about doubt that makes it resisted. If someone no longer resists doubt, it loses its energy like any other thoughtform and fades out of awareness.

VanishingPoint



Hello,


Another kind of doubt is when a guy invalidates their experience by wondering- "Is this for real?" "Is this really happening or am I making this all up in my head to feel good." A bigee. Your doubting mind knows no limits with this real deal thing. Everything's up for grabs. Like you can check out anything and ask if it's real. Kinda like a philosopher asking themselves if they're real or not or existance is real or not. There evaluation.

Another way to deal with doubt is to accept anything as real at least for the time being. Let the messing with doubting go off somewhere. Feel what you're feeling and see what it leads to. If you start to doubt, then use that as a signal to go back to whatever part of the process you're in.

Talking with your doubt, that others mentioned, helps many. I notice guys with moods are often the guys with the excessive type doubts or doubt every little thing.

Nick Abruzzi
Hello,

Spurring some strong doubt in self-help work is self-doubt which is based on anxieties and fears about *not being good enough, *anxiety that surfaces when situations are going well, *fear that something's wrong with me, *fear of exposing feelings, *anxiety about confrontation, *anxious need to control, *anxiety about need to impress others with performance, and *fear of trying new things. These below the surface anxieties and fears are sure to come out when persons face emotional processing and new ways of behaving.