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Let's update the taking action learn-in.
Paul Mayer
Let's update the taking action learn-in.
Paul Mayer
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Let's update the taking action learn-in.
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 PaulMayer |
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Posts: 31 (07/30/08 01:49 PM) |
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EdBoylan |
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Posts: 44 (07/30/08 02:39 PM) |
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BillSoltas |
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Posts: 22 (07/31/08 12:48 PM) |
Repost.
James asks: "What blocks people from taking action on what's important to them? How are these blocks overcome? How important is the habit of taking action on what's important?" James the most prevalent blocks to folks taking action are these: *Many persons are unaware that they can take action regardless of how they are feeling. They can unhook from their feelings or temporarily ignore them and go do what they need to do. This is often important in many situations to overcoming inaction. *A lack of complete commitment. Wavering on our commitments and bailing when challenges and learning experiences arrive will be death to our goals and visions and taking action on them. Persons need to learn how to make full commitments. *Fears of success/failure/rejection. These fears can be overcome through desentization/integration. *Low Frustration Tolerance. I can't stand it-itis will lead to gross impatience and quitting in the heat. People need to develop their patience and frustration tolerance. The "I Stood It Exercise" *Lack of good self-acceptance. Not accepting yourself can create a pile of hurdles to taking action and picturing yourself succeeding at them. *Not making our visions and goals a high priority. *Not having a clear and specific result to shoot for and the steps to getting there. *The goal or vision doesn't touch your deeper values and what you can become passionate about. It doesn't set off strong positive feelings. *You don't have any rewards for taking action. *Procrastination. Failure to take action in a timely manner. See the learn-in on procrastination. *We magically wish for things to happen, yet we are unwilling to take the all important action. *Our desire is weak or non existant. People tend to accomplish their goals and visions when they have a strong desire for them. Look at boxing champions, super bowl champions, and people who create highly successful companies. James the habit of taking action is extremely important when it comes to an important, meaningful, and pleasurable life. Life calls for action. Take care, Steve |
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1zn |
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Posts: 2 (08/01/08 12:15 AM) |
Hi,
Self-pressure blocks taking action. Once a person feels like they should or must do a task, they will then believe that there are negative consequences for not doing the task. This then creates resistance to not doing the task. When all resistance to not doing the task is integrated, a person is more likely to do the task. 1zn
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BenGretz |
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Posts: 19 (08/01/08 01:35 AM) |
Hello 1zn-
Good insight into why self-pressure MIGHT block action. Shoulds, oughts, musts, and have got tos do pressure us to take action. The usual negative consequences are self-putdowns or negative self-labels. Example: "I should take out the trash, but I don't and am a lumox." The difficulty here is that you want to do integrating to feel better (unpressured) instead of taking action. You are falling into the perfect feelings trap before you do something or take action. The Emoclear insight is that you can almost always take action no matter what you are feeling or how lousy and screwed up you feel. Feelings don't block people, the choice to not take action because we demand to feel better first is a block. The motto in Emoclear is get up and do it no matter how you feel. Save processing for something else if you need to take action. Just do it! Ben |
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Posts: 15 (08/02/08 03:52 AM) |
Hello, Earlier I saw a post where the poster suggested that people "do what works for them". This semi-popular cliche is a sure footed path to avoid
stretching yourself to learn new approaches or to give into Low Frustration and give up on what might be difficult at first. Obviously taking action is for
nearly everybody save someone suffering from a bad nervous system or psychosis or is physically paralized. Well maybe someone with these powerful difficulties
might have a bit more difficulty in hanging in there taking a difficult action. Regular everyday people can learn to get up and take action no matter how
supposedly horrible they feel. Very depressed and anxious people have learned to get up and take action and in doing so they unhooked from their feelings.
Cognitive Therapists, REBTers, Behavior Therapists, and Constructive Living People all suggest getting up and doing things no matter how you feel initially.
You can feel absolutely horrible and panicked at first and still do something. Gosh those people who chose to jump out of the very tall World Trade Center to
avoid being burned to death showed they could take an extreme course of action that seemed better than dying by fire. Sorry for this example. Many depressed,
fearful, and socalled emotionally paralyzed people get up and do something that needs to be done. They feel better for it and in more control of their lives.
They discover very quickly in the act of doing helps them overcome their emotional deadend. There is absolutely no need to stop and process emotions, a form of
stalling or procrastinating on taking action. Taking action itself is a natural integrator. It is a consumate exposure-desensitization method. You face what
you feel badly about doing at first. You may face fear, being stuck, or whatever emotion is trying to back you down. When you face this you will desensitize it
and find out firsthand that you can stand it--take it--that it's not too much. This is the REAL target not some wimpout, gutless procrastination trying to
make your feelings better before you do anything. Waiting to feel good before you do anything is bowing down to Low Frustration Tolerance. Hell with trying to
process before you take steps to take action. That's inefficient and ineffective. Anyone can take action. They learn very often the worst isn't their
experience. Hundreds of thousands of people have been liberated from depression, anxiety, and fear by getting up and DOING IT. They can feel rotten doing it at
first. Before long action CHANGES feelings. Action is a very powerful approach. People don't take action because they didn't continue out of choice.
Sorry but anyone can take an action no matter what they feel and continue it until completion. My two cents! Sandy
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1zn |
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Posts: 4 (08/02/08 08:26 AM) |
When someone feels bad about themselves for giving in to procrastination or not pushing through LFT, it can be a trap.
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1zn |
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Posts: 5 (08/02/08 08:39 AM) |
Unconditional acceptance of ourselves whether or not we take action can be helpful. |
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Posts: 17 (08/02/08 02:23 PM) |
Hello 1zn,
Guilt tripping yourself about failing to get up will help keep you stuck. You waste time downing yourself for not getting up. What helped me was the simple observation from the Action Manuever that if you can still move your hands and feet and can wiggle your fingers you can take action. It seems odd when you first get up and do something. It's slightly exhilerating. Well why didn't I do that before. It was easier than I thought. I didn't die from feelings caving in on me. Far from it, my feelings started to change. I became a convert from this obvious, but little thought of approach. Any excuse to put off action is bs. Someone is choosing not to do it. Feelings and emotions can't stop you unless you are dopey enough to listen to procrastination. One of the great learnings here is that action can be taken no matter how you feel. Your feelings begin to change after you take action. Not before. Sandy great insight. Maybe the test for being crazy ought to be if someone still refuses to take action. Come on, anyone can move their arms, legs, and fingers. There's no freakin' excuse. Actions change things. Kyle Broughton |
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Posts: 45 (08/03/08 03:55 PM) |
Hello,
It's seems so simple. No one thinks to do it. They think of a thousand ways to avoid taking action. Just take action. Focus on the action and it gets done. It is a litmus for lunacy. If someone fails to take action, they chose not to do so. If someone can move their arms, legs, and fingers why can't they get on the move and do something? The only real reason why is that they chose not to. Stand up and do it. It works. Julian Kammerz |
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Posts: 52 (08/04/08 05:31 PM) |
Hi,
For me the "As If action Manuever" where you act and feel like you already did it was a fantastic help. Pretty soon it feels like you did it--because you just did. Carol Howell |
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Posts: 49 (08/07/08 12:46 PM) |
Hi,
If you are emotionally paralyzed the best move is to just get up and do it. You might ask yourself a miracle question like they use in the Creator. Like what would I see and feel after I took action? What would others say after I completed my action? Ed Boylan |
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Posts: 20 (08/08/08 09:48 AM) |
Hello all,
What do you say to someone who is completely feelings led, like they say just don't feel like doing something? Kyle Broughton |
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Posts: 41 (08/09/08 02:29 PM) |
Hi,
Is the action you are taking self-defeating? Give it the Self-Defeating Behavior Test. Ask yourself these questions: *Is this behavior something you want? *Does it improve your life or ability to perform? *Does it fit with your short-term and long-term goals? *Does it keep you out of significant conflict with others? (unless the conflict is something you prefer). *Does it effect either your physical or mental health? *Could another behavior work better for you? *Will this behavior effect your other behaviors adversly? *Is it right for the context where it's employed? *Does it fit with your values? *Are there future consequences for this behavior? *What might make it difficult to perform in some instances? *How will this impact on your relationships? Jayne Burgos |
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Posts: 48 (08/11/08 05:17 PM) |
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Hi posters, How did you personally overcome complaining and blaming instead of taking action? How did you get right into an activity instead of wheel spinning in complaints and blaming. Ed Boylan Hi Ed If I did %@@*% and moan and needed to take action, I learned to break the state and start in on the action. Action is a good replacement for 'inaction' and bitching and moaning. Sometimes you have to become aware of what you're doing first before you switch to action. Anne |
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Posts: 45 (08/12/08 06:16 PM) |
Hello,
Thought distortions can weigh in on taking action. Typical blocking thought distortions are- Shoulding and musting. This creates pressure. Negative predictions. Low frustration tolerance. I can't stand it--it's too much. Jumping to conclusions. Impossibilizing. Nothing will work. Permanent conditions. I'll akways fail. Go ahead and do it. The distortions dissolve when you keep doing. James Detweiler |
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