Hello, Let's update the compulsion learn-in. Dan Canepa
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Posts: 28 (07/25/08 03:50 PM) |
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Posts: 42 (07/26/08 10:13 AM) |
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Posts: 43 (07/26/08 10:17 AM) |
Hello,
The root of compulsions is emotional avoidance. http://emoclear53380.yuku.com/topic/1280 Julian Kammerz |
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Posts: 44 (07/26/08 10:21 AM) |
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Posts: 30 (07/27/08 02:02 PM) |
Hi,
The Pattern Tree is especially useful for compulsive behaviors. Valierie Repost: THE PATTERN TREE The Pattern Tree is a method to alter stuck and self-defeating behavioral patterns. In this process our awareness is brought to how we perform a behavior and to the beliefs, feelings, sensations, urges, and intentions involved in each segment of the behavior pattern. The Behavior Tree is a map of our activity and the internal processes that go on before and during a behavior pattern. Change is brought about by integrating the beliefs, feelings, sensations, and urges involved, by altering intentions, and by altering or halting the physical behavior. (c) Steve Mensing ***Warning. Folks with a history of mental illness, trauma, or panic are urged not to use this process without a therapist. If you decide to do this process you will agree to absolve the webmasters, Steve Mensing, the server, Emoclear.com of any responsibility for the application or misapplication of this process. There is always the possibility with any mental or emotional process that someone might experience some discomfort. So proceed with this warning.*** THE PATTERN TREE (1) POLARITY BREATHWORK AND BRINGING AWARENESS TO ALL SEGMENTS OF A BEHAVIORAL PATTERN: Gently pinch your right nostril shut and breathe moderately (for 12 full inhalations & exhalations) through your left nostril only. When you are finished, immediately switch nostrils. Gently pinch your left nostril shut and breathe moderately (for 12 full inhalations & exhalations) through your right nostril only. Review your chosen behavior from start to finish. Notice the behavior's different parts or segments. When you are finished go immediately to step (2). (2) IN EITHER YOUR IMAGINATION OR IN REAL LIFE PERFORM A BEHAVIORAL PATTERN WHICH YOU PREFER TO ALTER: Either in your imagination or in real life perform a behavioral pattern from start to finish which you prefer to alter. In the first run through just observe what is happening. In a second run through jot down any beliefs, feelings, intentions, sensations, or urges that you have during the behavior. Run the behavior a third time to notice any beliefs, feelings, intentions, sensations, or urges that you might have missed. Also notice any unusual or specific behavioral segments that appear in behavioral run through. (3) CHOOSE 3 INTERNAL ELEMENTS WITHIN THE BEHAVIORAL PATTERN WHICH YOU WOULD PREFER TO INTEGRATE: Choose 3 internal elements within the behavioral pattern which you would prefer to integrate. These would be beliefs, feelings, intentions, sensations, or urges. Choose 3 from the 5 categories. When you have integrated these three internal elements, then proceed to step (4). (4) ALTER THE BEHAVIORAL PATTERN BY CHOOSING TO DO 2 OF THE FOLLOWING CHANGES: Alter the behavioral pattern by choosing to do 2 of the following changes: * Change the behavioral pattern's rate of frequency--Chose from not occuring at all to several times a day. * Change the location of the behavioral pattern. Move it somewhere else. * Interupt or halt any or all of the segments within the behavioral pattern. * Subtract or add segments to the behavioral pattern. *Speed up or slow down the behavioral pattern's duration. *Perform the behavioral pattern without its problematic elements. (5) WOULD YOU EITHER DROP THE BEHAVIORAL PATTERN ENTIRELY OR GO WITH YOUR NEWLY ALTERED VERSION: Would you either drop the behavioral pattern entirely or go with your modified verson? If you made a choice to drop the behavioral pattern, then integrate it it with an event reviewer Emo Reviewer. If you wish to use a revised version of the behavior, then practice this revised version in your imagination or in real life until it feels natural. Before you use the revised version, review whether it fits where you are employing it. **Do an ecology check.** Make any further changes required. You have not finished installing the behavior until it feels natural. Integrating can help help with overcoming feelings of unnaturalness. **Ecology check of a new behavior: Ask yourself questions like these: *Is this behavior something you want? *Does it improve your life or ability to perform? *Does it fit with your short-term and long-term goals? *Does it keep you out of significant conflict with others? (unless the conflict is something you prefer). *Does it effect either your physical or mental health? *Could another behavior work better for you? *Will this behavior effect your other behaviors adversly? *Is it right for the context where it's employed? *Does it fit with your values? *Are there future consequences for this behavior? *What might make it difficult to perform in some instances? *How will this impact on your relationships? Have fun, Steve |
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Posts: 53 (07/28/08 12:49 PM) |
Hi All,
Chapter Eight in Steve's "Your Emotional Power" features the Behavior Repatterner and solid tips on overcoming the impulse to act. This chapter is a very simple yet powerful guide to moving beyond compulsion. The longer avoidance drives behaviors, the more complex the behaviors can become. The behavior is a flag that there is some tending to do emotionally. There may be beliefs that are driving the avoidance. Take a look at them. The Habit Cracker is a good starting place for dropping compulsive behaviors. You will be able to identify avoided emotions, which you may target for processing and integration: http://emoclear.com/processes/habitcracker.html Diane |
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Posts: 27 (07/29/08 09:11 PM) |
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Hi, How do you identify a feeling or the feelings beneath a compulsion? Joannie (01/05/08 09:49 AM) Hi Joannie, To identify the feeling beneath a compulsion you stop doing the compulsive activity or any activity while you sit with your feelings. You ask your body: "What needs my attention?" You wait for a feeling response. You may feel anxiety or overwhelm. Maybe another emotion. When you do feel the feeling, feel it into integration. If that feeling wasn't the feeling the compulsion was covering, you will soon feel it. Sometimes several strong feelings are avoided by compulsive activities. Keep going to your body and asking: "What needs my attention?" Most times compulsions cover anxiety and overwhelm, but other strong emotions can be compulsively covered over. Paul Mayer (01/07/08 02:26 PM) Hi Joannie, Sit with the urge to compulsive activity. Be with it fully. Pay attention to it. If you feel you can't stand it, fill your mouth with saliva or bottled water and stay with it. Sit and feel it until it dies out. The feeling beneath the compulsion will suddenly appear. Feel it with any integrator. Immerse yourself in it. It will integrate. Perhaps it is several feelings or hidden emotions. Sit with each one. Carol Howell (01/08/08 01:49 PM) Hi Joannie, Get to the urge to act on the compulsion. Let the urge to act stay until it fades out. Right below are the feelings that are being blocked. Mostly anxious feelings or strong sense of overwhelm. Allow yourself to feel it. Aimee |
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Posts: 50 (08/07/08 12:49 PM) |
Hi,
Dialogue with your compulsion and you can find the underlying suppressed emotions. Feel them. Ed Boylan |
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Posts: 42 (08/09/08 02:37 PM) |
Hi,
How do you spot a compulsive behavior? You feel driven to do it. You may experience a craving for something. Others tell you it seems like you are acting addictively. You fib or lie about it or try to hide it from others. You spend a large amount of time on it daily. It may be costing you plenty in terms of money, relationships, friendships or may threaten your job. It's never enough. You feel strange when you don't do the behavior. You feel out of control. Jayne Burgos |
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Posts: 47 (08/11/08 05:10 PM) |
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Just about any wrote and repetitive action or behavior can become a compulsion. You do it mindlessly. These behaviors can quickly distract you from strong feelings. Compulsions are distractions. Think of it. Shopping, drinking, workaholism. Mindless chatter. wrote and repetitive. Running. Cleaning. Ironing. Tom Cuthbertson |
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