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Hi Carl:

Carl asks: "What would a useful anger management program contain?"

Carl a useful anger management program would provide these elements:

*Assertiveness training so someone would have appropriate assertive behaviors to express this displeasure instead of aggressive and passive behavior.

*Ways of recognizing what's self-defeating anger and what's healthy anger.

*Methods for overcoming Low Frustration Tolerance and impatience.

*Noticing the benefits and costs of different varieties of anger.

*Learning quick ways to defuse strong arousal/flight/fight leading to anger and rage.

*Knowing the difference between demandingness/shoulding/musting and expressing flexible preferences.

*Having behavior depatterning methods for changing angry and rage behaviors.

*Being aware of the effect of sleep and eating on anger and moods.

*Self and other-acceptance plays an important role in managing anger. Negative labeling others has a strong effect in anger and how we view others.

*Learn how to deflate anger in others through listening skills and disarming methods.

*Noticing that folks, ourselves included, are fallible and will make mistakes.

Take care, Steve